Make your social media more positive!

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It’s no lie that most of us spend far too much time on social media than we’d like to admit!

Rather than telling you to just spend less time on Facebook, Instagram and whatever else you use (I admit, I couldn’t do it easily either!), I’m going to tell you how to use these hours you “waste” in a more productive and inspiring way.

We personalize our bedrooms, knowing that we spend a lot of time there, so why not personalize our social media channels too!

Positivity on Facebook…

  • Unfollow negative people: there are some people on Facebook constantly complaining about things and each time you scroll past one of their posts you probably think “nobody cares”, their mood then affects you, even if only for a second. To avoid this simply go onto their profile and there will be a little box saying “Following”, press that button and you have unfollowed them. Now their negativity will no longer appear in your news feed. Do this with as many people as you want!
  • Like positive pages: if you’re like me and love quotes, there are some great quote pages on Facebook, go and like a bunch and you will soon see your news feed become more positive! My all time favourite one is Positive Outlooks.
  • Don’t try to start social media fights: there are such a waste of time, if you don’t like what someone has to say, unfollow or unfriend them. If it is directed at you, block them. Just because they are seeking attention in a negative way it does not mean you have to become involved.
  • Block creepy people: if there are people that continuously annoy you on Facebook, block them. Guys who are always trying to talk to you, just seeing what you’re up to etc. These people put you in an annoyed and frustrated mood, so do yourself a favour, stop letting them put you in these moods and stop them from being able to contact you.
  • Post positive things: generally if you only put up positive things, you won’t receive negative responses. You may even encourage your close friends to become more positive on social media too!

Positivity on Instagram…

  • Don’t follow people who you don’t actually care about: if you always see someone’s posts, you never like them and just scroll past them, simply unfollow them. That two seconds you use to scroll past them, could of been used to look at something inspiring!
  • Unfollow negative people: same as on Facebook, if they post negative things or things you don’t like, get rid of them. Some of my pet hates are people doing drugs, constantly complaining they’re fat or whining about not having a boyfriend.
  • Follow inspiring people: people that you look up to whether they are celebrities, fitness models or even people you know. If they are doing something great with their lives, follow them. Hopefully they will inspire you to go out and do great things with your life!
  • Follow educational accounts: I love to follow fitness accounts and learn about new exercises, there’s so many accounts out there for every single thing you could imagine, so whatever it is that you want to learn more about, search for it.
  • Follow pages that make you smile: for me these are puppy pages! Travel accounts are great too, and quote pages!

I have included a list below of my all time favourite Instagram accounts with a description of each, so if you’re looking to add some vibrancy, positivity and a bit of cuteness to your Instagram feed, give some of these a follow!

Random pages (but definitely two of my absolute favourite accounts!)

  • mermaidsofhawaii: a company in Hawaii that turns people into mermaids for photoshoots.
  • _bahamasgirl_: an underwater model in the Bahamas who swims with all kinds of sea creatures.

For health and fitness:

  • lovehealthfitness: A gorgeous girl that posts clean and super pretty photos of food!
  • motivationwall: quotes, health and fitness motivation.
  • emilyskyefit: an Australia fitness model that promotes positive body image.
  • buttguide: great leg and booty workouts! :D
  • womenshealthaus: quotes, fitness and posts that will make you giggle.
  • 6packguide: new ab exercises to strengthen you.
  • gym_videos; loads of videos with new exercises for you to try!

For cute dogs:

  • barkleythepom: A hilarious pomeranian puppy that gets dressed up and goes on adventures.
  • themightyrufus: an english bulldog that belongs to my friend. He isn’t cute at all but he will make you laugh!
  • spartacuspup: an adorable puppy family.

For extraordinary and inspiring people:

  • laurasykora: a yogi, but even if you’re not into yoga, follow her. She posts the most gorgeous photos, especially when her kids get in them!
  • lyzabethlopez: a beautiful woman who inspires hundreds of thousands of people.
  • devinbrugman: a girl who is always in a bikini and always on vacation somewhere amazing.
  • ashaburnley: a very positive female role model who is always thankful and happy.
  • melissaambrosini: an amazing female blogger who radiates self-love and encourages others to do the same.
  • the_be_life: a girl whose heart just bursts with positivity and happiness, she posts amazing videos.

Quote accounts

  • motivation__daily
  • lovequotes578
  • achievetheimpossible
  • heysoul__
  • thinkdifferents
  • lifequotes1235
  • instapositivity
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You can also find me on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/funiswhatyoumakeit

And on Instagram: @kkkirstin

 

Sending lots of love and positive vibes to you all,

Kirstin xx

Small Changes With Big Results

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Many of us spend so much time unhappy when there are small changes we can make to change this unhappiness. I have put together a list of 8 things all of us should immediately STOP doing below. Most of these things I have stopped in my life and I can definitely see results. I encourage you to find the strength to stop doing these things too.

  1. Stop drinking a ridiculous amount every weekend – you and your close circle of friends may think partying every weekend is super cool but wasting so much of your money and time definitely is not cool.
  2. Stop pretending exercise isn’t important – don’t keep saying you will get on track with your fitness in a few years because you can do it today, you can do it right now. Physical activity is so important and it will better so many aspects of your life, so go out and get moving!
  3. Stop putting others down – you’re not in high school anymore so judging other people for how they look, what they’re wearing, what they believe in etc. is not cool.
  4. Stop putting yourself down – negative self talk whether you are alone or in front of others will not add any happiness to your life. Learn how to block those thoughts out. Think and speak more positively about yourself.
  5. Stop opting for cheaper and unhealthier food options – You need to nourish and cherish your body and not fill it with unhealthy and low nutrient food. Love your body and your body will love you back.
  6. Stop comparing yourself to other people – in case you haven’t realized it yet, wishing you were someone else won’t actually make you become that person. Just focus on your own life and what you can do to improve upon yourself.
  7. Stop being involved with people who don’t care about you – if you feel like someone don’t give a shit about you, stop giving them your time and energy. It can be put to much better use.
  8. Stop putting things off – whether it’s studying, that GP or dental check up, or even calling your parents… go and do it!

Now that you know what you need to stop doing, here are 8 things you need to start doing. All of these things will add happiness to your life.

  1. Start giving compliments
  2. Start lending a hand, even when people don’t ask
  3. Start calling your parents more
  4. Start setting goals and planning for your future
  5. Start making time for your closest friends
  6. Start believing in yourself
  7. Start saving money
  8. Start loving yourself

The last one I believe is the most important thing I have written in this entire post! Once you have found a place of self-love, your life will forever be changed. All of the decisions you make will come from a loving place and you will be able to find happiness much, much easier.

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So go on, love yourself and change your life!

Lots and lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Wish Others Well

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Sometimes when you’re down or stuck it’s hard to see people around you succeeding and finding happiness. Often we envy this or feel jealous. Sometimes we try to sabotage it as we feel If I’m not happy, no one else should be…

You will find that by wishing unhappiness on others, failures and for doors to close on them, you won’t become any happier. There’s no little fairy that will magically transfer their happiness onto you.

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I see people around me that do this all the time and I know it’s a common issue in many people’s lives, so here are my suggestions for those of you that do this:

  • When someone tells you some good news, ask them more about it, congratulate them and tell them how happy you are for them (regardless of whether you are or not). Overtime you can trick your mind into actually becoming happy for them. And seeing people light up and get excited when they speak of their happiness is such a beautiful thing.
  • If while someone is telling you about their success, you immediately have thoughts in your head like ‘I don’t care about you or your success, my life is not going well, this isn’t fair,’ try to shut the thoughts out immediately, just focus on what the person is saying and try to smile and block out those negative thoughts.
  • Let those who are doing well inspire you. If you’re looking for a way to bring more joy into your life, learn what it is that they are doing and perhaps you can apply some of those principals to your own life.
  • If you find yourself continually feeling negative towards others good news, ask yourself ‘Why am I feeling like this?‘ and ‘What can I do to change this feeling?‘ You will find that by sorting your own life out, rather than continuously putting things off, you will become a happier person and accepting others happiness will come easier.

These are just a few of my suggestions and I hope they help! The ability to be happy for others and wish them well is a great life skill to have. Life is too short to be full of jealousy. If you are constantly comparing yourself to others and competing with them to find happiness, you’ll find those around you will find happiness, but you won’t.

I have reached the stage when I hear about other people’s happiness, success and good news I become happy for them and in turn, that increases the happiness within me. I hope all of you can find this beautiful place too!

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Have an amazing, blissful and gorgeous weekend!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

My View on Relationships

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I always write posts about the thing that has been on my mind the most lately, and so today’s post is about love and relationships.

If you don’t know, I’ve been single for three years and have dated but never found myself in a relationship. Yes, some may say I have chosen the wrong guys to be around but for me, I have a strong intuitive feeling, and if something is not worth pursuing, then I wont pursue it.

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None of us should waste time on people that we don’t feel will add something to our lives.

I am very lucky that my parents have so much love between them, they have shown my siblings and I how great love can be. They inspired me to never settle for something less than that.

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After recently meeting someone very amazing, that I can see a great future with, I decided to share with you all the six things I believe are key to a successful relationship. They are inspired by my parents amazing relationship, plus my own life experience.

  • Your partner should challenge you. He/she should encourage you to become a better person and inspire to go for what you want. If you don’t know what you want, your partner should make you feel as though, with their love, you are able to discover just what it is.
  • You should be able to grow together. I believe we continuously grow in life, every single day, if we choose to. You should find someone that wants to continue growing and not just remain stuck in the same place. Not only should they seek growth in their own life, but also growth in the life you create together,
  • You should want your children to be like your partner. If you can look at your partner and think “He/she would make an amazing father/mother”, then to me, that’s love. You should love the qualities they have, the person they are and the person they are becoming.
  • You each should have your own projects. As much as creating a life together and being together is important, you both have different interests and need to pursue these projects individually in order to make the projects you pursue together successful.
  • Your partner should be the only person you want (and you should be the only person they want). Working on your relationship and doing what it takes to keep the other happy is so important. Even if you both get attention from other people, I once read a quote which I think sums this up nicely: “It doesn’t matter who wants me, I only want you”.
  • You should fall in love with them over and over again. A great partner is someone who can continue to do things to make you smile, even 20 years down the track. Your relationship should always be a priority, no matter how busy life gets.

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If you are yet to find great love, do what it is that you love, and you will find by focusing on yourself and bettering yourself, you will attract the right kind of people.

If you are currently on a love journey, enjoy it, put time and effort into it and it may just become one of the greatest love stories of all time.

And for those of you that have already found it, hold onto it, cherish it and preach it. Not enough people believe in great love these days, so remind everyone that it does exist.

i-fell-in-love-with-you-not-for-how-you-look-just-for-who-you-are-888209Have a beautiful and love filled weekend everyone!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

 

Get out of your rut

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We all get stuck in ruts, but once you realise you are in one, it’s often hard to get out.I recently got out of a rut I’d been in for two months, so I decided to share my story with you all on how I got out of it.

I left my job last week, I had wanted to for months because I felt I really needed to focus on my final year of studies. But I kept putting it off week after week, as I was too scared to make such a huge change.

However last Tuesday, I just became so stressed that I needed to do something about it. I called my best friend up and she had heard about my stress, tiredness, and wanting to quit for months now. She would always be there for me and offer some kind of advice but last Tuesday was different. She said:

“Okay, we need an attitude change. We need to change. Both of us. We are turning into different people. I don’t like who I am becoming. You aren’t happy in your job… You are going to get your positivity back, and so am I… I think we need to remember who we were last year… we were beautiful, caring, amazing young women ready to take on this world! That’s still us but I feel both of us are bogged down right now. We were focused on positivity, self love and acceptance. We need to get back to that. I really need this, and I need it before I forget to value myself.”

She had recently left her job too, I had become selfish, just focusing on my own problems, burdening her with my stresses and brought her down.

I had not seen the situation from this perspective and this made me so sad that I had dragged my amazing friend down with me. I was determined to make a change and the change had to happen that day because it’s sad for me to be down all the time but it was heartbreaking to think I brought my friend down with me.

My friend helped me out of this rut and I am so thankful to have such a beautiful soul in my life. If you’re in a rut here are my suggestions as to how you can get out of it:

  • Look at it from a different perspective, e.g. is your rut affecting more than just you?
  • Turn to a friend or family member and ask them to be brutally honest with you
  • Reflect on who you used to be, and if you’d rather be that person, figure out what it will take for you to get back there
  • Pinpoint the parts of your life that are bringing you down and work out how you can change them
  • And finally, have some courage! Making changes can be a scary thing, but you know what’s even scarier? Not making changes, staying in a rut and continuing to live life unhappily.

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It’s been almost a week since I left my job and I feel my life has completely turned around. I wake up smiling each day, have more time for myself and my studies and just feel I’m becoming a much happier person again. My friend is the same and we’re getting our happy back together.

We all need to be aware that our behaviors can affect those closest to us. If you’re down all the time, chances are you may be bringing a friend down with you. It’s not til you stop and see this, that you realise how much it hurts.

Get out of your rut, and make changes today.

Be positive and be there for your loved ones.

Be happy together.

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Believe that you deserve the best

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If you ever feel like you deserve to be treated better, you’re absolutely right, you sure do.

You deserve to feel that everyone in your life is helping you become a better person.

And know that anyone who does not help you to become a better person, does not deserve a second of your time.

You don’t need to be around negative, dream-crushing, soul-draining people.

Have the strength to walk away or let go of anyone that like this.

You deserve the best, and by removing these other people from your life, you make space for new people to come into your life.

One’s that will have a more positive effect on you.

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Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Be present

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When life becomes stressful and difficult often we zone out of reality. We just do what needs to be done, with our minds in another place. Sometimes it can go on for days or weeks before we snap out of it and realise the joyless days we have been living.

I personally have noticed that being present is tied closely to my happiness. When I am present, I appreciate the moment, I smile a lot more, complain a lot less and am glad to be alive. If I have been absent in my life for a few days I feel lazy, tired, grumpy and just over everything.

So why don’t we all just stop being absent and start being present everyday?

Because it’s hard. Being present is something that needs to be practiced every day before it becomes a habit. I try to be present in my own life every single day but when I become really busy, I forget to do (or don’t make time for) the things that make me present and happy.

Now that a the Easter long weekend is upon us, there is so much time for all of us to remind ourselves of what we need to do to stay present in our own lives. Exercise, meditation, getting fresh air and eating healthy foods all help, so you’ve just go to find what works for you.

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My absolute favourite thing is visiting the beach. Walking on the sand, sun baking and swimming in the salty water helps me to feel alive and once I’ve done that, I find my days are easier to manage and I am so much more present.

Have a beautiful long weekend and I hope that you find plenty of time to be present this weekend, next week, and every other week that follows.

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

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Don’t seek other peoples approval

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At the top of my list of things that do not matter would have to be OTHER PEOPLE’S APPROVAL.

I have longed to move to Western Australia for so long now and am aching to go. However when I tell people I am going next year so many people have said “you’ll hate it”, “there’s nothing to do”, “oh, why would you want to go there?” etc.

Anyone can say whatever they want about WA, but I am still going to go. I feel a pull to go there, like it’s something I have to do.

It annoys me that people try to discourage my dreams like that. Of course none of the people who have said these comments are my close friends, but still, why discourage someone’s dream?

No matter how crazy anyone’s dream is, I’m going to encourage them to do it.

People may think you’re crazy for doing something, but I think you’re crazy if you don’t.

If you choose to stay in a familiar place, where you’re sort of, kinda happy living, at the same job that pays the rent and you just get through each week… to me THAT IS CRAZY.

There are so many people in this world that will try to discourage others, so don’t be one of them.

Be a dreamer and be a person who does crazy things.

Do things for you, do things and just be happy doing them.

Don’t look for approval from others.

Cause if it feels right and it makes you happy, then that’s all that matters.

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Find what makes you happy and make time for it!

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As our lives get busier and our days seem longer, its so easy to be caught up in a rut of stress and tiredness. We find that often a lot of the people we are surrounded by feel similarly and we all just kind of wallow around together, not really enjoying like but just going through the motions.

I’ve been like this for a while now, just living day by day, week by week, doing what I have to do to pass my university courses and get my rent and bills paid. But a short time ago I realized, this isn’t how it should be. All it took was a trip to the beach. To me, the beach is everything and helps me remember who I am.

As I drove home from the beach, salt crystals dried on my face, my cheeks sun kissed and sandy feet, I reflected back on the past few months. I was always thinking that I was so busy and didn’t have time to enjoy myself. But I was so wrong. Ever since that day, I have realized the importance of shuffling things around if you can and just going to the beach.

Whether the beach makes you happy, reading, writing, music, whatever it is… make time for it! And you will feel so much happier. We are all busy but we can make time for happiness, and we all should.

P.S. Listen to this song, I hope it makes you happy too!

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Remember who you are

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It’s easy to lose sight of who we are when we are crazy busy and I am so guilty of this.

I have started back university and work for a nightclub as a manager now and in all my business, lack of sleep and exhaustion, I completely forget who I am.

I’ve stopped writing (until now), stopped posting positive quotes on my Instagram and Facebook page, stopped meditation and yoga and stopped finding time to go to the beach.

My reality check came in the form of a guy I am seeing who encourages me to come to the beach with him and just to chill. I love how he is a really busy person too but still finds time to chill and go to the beach almost every day.

I am always stressed and have been complaining a lot and letting things get to me, when really if I just stayed true to who I was, and made time for things that make me feel happy, I’d be fine.

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So I’m pledging to make more time for myself from now on.

If you feel like you’ve lost sight of who you are, take a step back and remember what makes you happy, and then make time for those things!

Often we are far more stressed than we should be and if we just stop to chill out regularly, I think we’ll all be better off.

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Lots of love,

Kirstin xx