Listen to your gut feeling

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A few weeks ago I was talking with a yoga instructor about intuitive feelings. If we learn to listen to these feelings, she said, we get a strong sense on “YES ABSOLUTELY GO FOR IT” (she threw her arms out wide and beamed with a smile) or “no that isn’t going to be a good option for you” (she wrapped her arms around herself in a protective way).

I have known about intuitive feelings for a while, but only really started noticing them and acting on them when I was 18 and ending a serious relationship. But gut feelings don’t just come up when you are facing a big decision, they come up with every decision you make, if you listen closely enough to yourself.

For me, if I am faced with a decision and go with the option that is against my gut feeling (probably because I chose to ignore it or just acted so quickly that I didn’t give myself the time to figure out was best), I will feel anxious, nervous, pain in my chest and normally very on edge. Sometimes I even tear up or just have a lump in my throat. When all of these signs start to happen, it’s only then that I relaise I am going against my gut feeling. My body starts physically giving me signs to steer me in another direction.

But if I give myself time to think about a decision and realise what is best for me before acting on it, my body is much happier for it. I feel calm, at peace and as though my heart is smiling.

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While all of these feelings can come up in daily settings, I know not all of them are intuitive, for example, feeling anxious before a presentation certainly doesn’t mean you should walk away from it by any means! You just have to listen to yourself, your body and your spirit deep down know what is best for you and what isn’t, so trust them.

For those of you that are not in tune with your intuition, guided meditations and yoga are a great place to start. Spending time alone, in quiet places, like walking on the beach, also helps.

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My intuition has never lead me wrong, the only ways I have been lead wrong in the past is if I completely ignore it or act too quickly! So I am going to try to avoid doing those things and hope my life can remain relatively peaceful as a result.

I encourage all of you to get in touch with your intuition – start listening to yourself. In society so many people tell us what to do each day but there’s only one person who knows what is best for you, and that is you!

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Wishing you so much happiness and peace,

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Never Compromise

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Lately I have been feeling a bit down because I am in my final semester of university, and feel like my degree hasn’t really gotten me anywhere in particular. I have no idea what I will do next year or with my life in general and have just been feeling a bit stuck.

People have told me to do post graduate studies because it will get me to where I want to be. But three years at university sure didn’t help me get there, so why would two or four more years?

I feel as though a university education just makes you become like everyone else, but what if I don’t want to be like everyone else?

I know the results I want my life to produce – to help others, to inspire others and to make a difference – but I am not sure what actions to take, to produce these results.

My sister suggested going along to a movie with her, so I happily went along, not sure what to expect. What I encountered was a community of like-minded positive people gathered in a small yoga studio, with vegan treats and chai tea, huddled on bean bags to watch the movie Finding Joe. Afterwards everyone stayed around and talked to each other about the movie and about life. I was amazed in the power of Finding Joe – this movie allowed strangers to talk so openly and warmly to other strangers. It was one of the most beautiful things I have witnessed or ever been a part of.

If Finding Joe helped me realize one thing, it’s to never compromise. Your dreams are important and you need to listen to them. The people who tell you to go to university, to do post graduate studies, to get a well-paid job and live like the majority – they are the unlucky ones.

Joseph Campbell preaches to:

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The unlucky people ignore their calling, they choose not to acknowledge what their bliss may be, and in turn, they are the ones who won’t find bliss.

While these unlucky people may shake their heads and laugh at you, don’t let it compromise your hopes and dreams. Even if they tell you your plans are not realistic – don’t listen to them. Others settle for a life that’s just okay because they fear failure. They fear another opportunity will never come along so they just take whatever they can get, and live the safe life. But as Joseph Campbell said, you must go after your fear!

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The very next day after seeing Finding Joe, I withdrew my application for post graduate studies. I realised my applying for that position was not a step towards bliss, it was a step towards conformity. Yes, it may have got me a well-paid 9-5 job, but I want so much more than that.

Although I am not sure exactly what lays ahead of me, I’m determined to only make decisions that make my heart happy and I can confidently say that one day I will find my bliss. Those who said “that’s just a hobby, you can’t make a living doing that,” how wrong they will be.

A mediocre 9-5 job and an average life is not for me. I can’t settle for that. And I hope you won’t either. I hope you follow your passions, listen to your calling and chase your dreams.

It will be hard and you will struggle many times along the way, but as Joseph Campbell said:

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Let me assure you, it’s going to be okay. Or maybe it won’t be. Maybe instead of being okay, your life will be grand, magnificent and spectacular.

 

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I am focused on positivity, self-love and happiness, I love connecting with others who are similar, so I hope to hear from you!

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I wish you all peace, happiness, and so much love,

Kirstin xx

Allow Yourself to GROW

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I read somewhere that 50% of the people we have in our lives don’t want to see us do well. They don’t want to hear about your dreams, and if you still choose to tell them, they will tell you that you can’t do it, and secretly wish failure upon you. Roosh summarizes these people perfectly below:

They want you to fail because your success is their failure. It reminds them of their laziness, their poor work ethic. Their subtle jabs and withholding of encouragement are aimed to keep you in an inferior station. No one wants to see someone rise at faster speed than themselves.

There is no point in telling other people your goals. They will talk you out of it or give you bad advice. There is no point trying to convince others of your world view. They will plant seeds of doubts that prevent you from action and seeing the truth. The minute you go just slightly higher than you have been, they will try to sabotage you. They are the worrymongers, fearmongers, scaremongers, shamemongers, guilt-trippers, trolls, and haters. Ignore them. Feeding them brings you down to their level, which is exactly what they want.

Now as someone who is quite aware of those kind of people, I certainly don’t believe that 50% of the people in my life are like this at all. However I do know a few, and one in particular that definitely needs to be let go of.

I allow these people to remain in my life, even though I know they have served their purpose and it is time for me to move on. They remind me of the person I was, or the person I’m trying to move away from, and the familiarity I feel for them is probably what makes me keep them around.

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I’m challenging myself this weekend to say good bye to one of these people, to ask them not to contact me anymore. I need to do this for myself so that I can properly become the person I feel I am becoming. It will be hard, but if I don’t let go of this person, I feel my life and I will not grow.

I challenge all you amazing people this weekend to have a good think about if you have any of these kind of people in your life – ex lovers, friends, old colleagues, acquaintances etc. If you feel that a particular person does not help you grow or even inhibits you from growing, it’s time to cut the strings.

You may be comfortable where you are, surrounded by familiar people, but are these people wishing you well? Do they inspire you to set goals and achieve them, or do they try to hold you in the place you are in right now, not wanting you to grow because if you do, they are afraid they will lose you?

You need to do what’s best for yourself and surround yourself with the people who wish you well, who are happy for your successes, celebrate your victories and do not find joy in your failures. I’m sure you can look at the people in your life and know whether they help you grow or not.

So I encourage you to get up the strength to let go of the people that don’t wish you well, you’ll make room for the positive people in your life, and find it much easier to achieve your goals and dreams once you are surrounded by like minded people who want to see you climb mountains.

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Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Make your social media more positive!

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It’s no lie that most of us spend far too much time on social media than we’d like to admit!

Rather than telling you to just spend less time on Facebook, Instagram and whatever else you use (I admit, I couldn’t do it easily either!), I’m going to tell you how to use these hours you “waste” in a more productive and inspiring way.

We personalize our bedrooms, knowing that we spend a lot of time there, so why not personalize our social media channels too!

Positivity on Facebook…

  • Unfollow negative people: there are some people on Facebook constantly complaining about things and each time you scroll past one of their posts you probably think “nobody cares”, their mood then affects you, even if only for a second. To avoid this simply go onto their profile and there will be a little box saying “Following”, press that button and you have unfollowed them. Now their negativity will no longer appear in your news feed. Do this with as many people as you want!
  • Like positive pages: if you’re like me and love quotes, there are some great quote pages on Facebook, go and like a bunch and you will soon see your news feed become more positive! My all time favourite one is Positive Outlooks.
  • Don’t try to start social media fights: there are such a waste of time, if you don’t like what someone has to say, unfollow or unfriend them. If it is directed at you, block them. Just because they are seeking attention in a negative way it does not mean you have to become involved.
  • Block creepy people: if there are people that continuously annoy you on Facebook, block them. Guys who are always trying to talk to you, just seeing what you’re up to etc. These people put you in an annoyed and frustrated mood, so do yourself a favour, stop letting them put you in these moods and stop them from being able to contact you.
  • Post positive things: generally if you only put up positive things, you won’t receive negative responses. You may even encourage your close friends to become more positive on social media too!

Positivity on Instagram…

  • Don’t follow people who you don’t actually care about: if you always see someone’s posts, you never like them and just scroll past them, simply unfollow them. That two seconds you use to scroll past them, could of been used to look at something inspiring!
  • Unfollow negative people: same as on Facebook, if they post negative things or things you don’t like, get rid of them. Some of my pet hates are people doing drugs, constantly complaining they’re fat or whining about not having a boyfriend.
  • Follow inspiring people: people that you look up to whether they are celebrities, fitness models or even people you know. If they are doing something great with their lives, follow them. Hopefully they will inspire you to go out and do great things with your life!
  • Follow educational accounts: I love to follow fitness accounts and learn about new exercises, there’s so many accounts out there for every single thing you could imagine, so whatever it is that you want to learn more about, search for it.
  • Follow pages that make you smile: for me these are puppy pages! Travel accounts are great too, and quote pages!

I have included a list below of my all time favourite Instagram accounts with a description of each, so if you’re looking to add some vibrancy, positivity and a bit of cuteness to your Instagram feed, give some of these a follow!

Random pages (but definitely two of my absolute favourite accounts!)

  • mermaidsofhawaii: a company in Hawaii that turns people into mermaids for photoshoots.
  • _bahamasgirl_: an underwater model in the Bahamas who swims with all kinds of sea creatures.

For health and fitness:

  • lovehealthfitness: A gorgeous girl that posts clean and super pretty photos of food!
  • motivationwall: quotes, health and fitness motivation.
  • emilyskyefit: an Australia fitness model that promotes positive body image.
  • buttguide: great leg and booty workouts! :D
  • womenshealthaus: quotes, fitness and posts that will make you giggle.
  • 6packguide: new ab exercises to strengthen you.
  • gym_videos; loads of videos with new exercises for you to try!

For cute dogs:

  • barkleythepom: A hilarious pomeranian puppy that gets dressed up and goes on adventures.
  • themightyrufus: an english bulldog that belongs to my friend. He isn’t cute at all but he will make you laugh!
  • spartacuspup: an adorable puppy family.

For extraordinary and inspiring people:

  • laurasykora: a yogi, but even if you’re not into yoga, follow her. She posts the most gorgeous photos, especially when her kids get in them!
  • lyzabethlopez: a beautiful woman who inspires hundreds of thousands of people.
  • devinbrugman: a girl who is always in a bikini and always on vacation somewhere amazing.
  • ashaburnley: a very positive female role model who is always thankful and happy.
  • melissaambrosini: an amazing female blogger who radiates self-love and encourages others to do the same.
  • the_be_life: a girl whose heart just bursts with positivity and happiness, she posts amazing videos.

Quote accounts

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You can also find me on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/funiswhatyoumakeit

And on Instagram: @kkkirstin

 

Sending lots of love and positive vibes to you all,

Kirstin xx

Remember who you are

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It’s easy to lose sight of who we are when we are crazy busy and I am so guilty of this.

I have started back university and work for a nightclub as a manager now and in all my business, lack of sleep and exhaustion, I completely forget who I am.

I’ve stopped writing (until now), stopped posting positive quotes on my Instagram and Facebook page, stopped meditation and yoga and stopped finding time to go to the beach.

My reality check came in the form of a guy I am seeing who encourages me to come to the beach with him and just to chill. I love how he is a really busy person too but still finds time to chill and go to the beach almost every day.

I am always stressed and have been complaining a lot and letting things get to me, when really if I just stayed true to who I was, and made time for things that make me feel happy, I’d be fine.

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So I’m pledging to make more time for myself from now on.

If you feel like you’ve lost sight of who you are, take a step back and remember what makes you happy, and then make time for those things!

Often we are far more stressed than we should be and if we just stop to chill out regularly, I think we’ll all be better off.

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Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Tell it to people straight

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There’s nothing worse than someone not being real with you, and this has become more and more obvious to me lately.

I am working at a nightclub and initially I felt fragile, vulnerable and so timid! I was scared I was doing it wrong or that they wouldn’t like my ideas. But after a few weeks of working there I feel like I have become so much stronger and better because my boss just told it to me straight. If I screwed up, he would tell me to re do something and I needed to toughen up!

This post was mostly inspired by another situation that happened recently however..

Last year I went on a date with a guy as we were working for the same modelling agency and worked on a set together. Apart from occasional shifts with that job he did nothing else with his life but played video games. He had no motivation or ambition. After our date I never wanted to see him again and he wanted me to tell him why.

So I was straight with him. I told him I am goal driven, passionate and incredibly ambitious and that I needed someone also was. He was really angry at me, abused me a bit and blocked me off of everything. I wasn’t bothered at all.

However last night he unblocked me off Facebook and said the following thing:

“Hey I just wanted to say thank you… I remember when you said I had no ambition. I said you were wrong, but you actually weren’t. I was so lost at that point in my life. You saying that kind of snapped me out of it. It actually woke me up. I was so defensive, but you were right. I think I was just cut because I knew it was true, but didn’t want to face the facts. After I kind of accepted it I thought ‘well if she thinks it, it’s more than likely others think it. I gotta do something with my life.’So, I literally jumped into everything… Joined a band. Started job searching, everything haha. Now I’m so busy with work, band, making websites, and I’m even writing a book with a friend of mine. I hardly even knew you, but you were the one to say it straight. Why couldn’t anyone else do that? This is hard for me to admit. But eh, thats kind of a main reason I got back into contact with you.”

I was so tired when I got this message last night and it made me cry. I am so glad I could inspire someone I hardly even know, just by telling it to him straight.

So next time you have to tell someone something, make sure you tell it to them straight!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Ambition and Relationships

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This post is inspired by the following two quotes:

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I have been in a number of relationships and have seen my friends in numerous relationships too and it’s funny how so many guys want a submissive girl who doesn’t know what she wants in life and will just follow him through life.

I am not a crazy feminist or anything, but I am a firm believer that a woman should do what she wants with her life and the man should support her. Of course the guy should have his own goals and dreams too!

If a guy ever thinks you are too ambitious, you should reconsider your relationship. Your man should encourage you to reach for the stars and for you to work towards every one of your dreams. If he doesn’t do this, then he is not worth your time.

Two people cannot be together if they are traveling in opposite directions.

One thing I strongly believe is that you have to know what you want in life, BEFORE entering a serious relationship. However if you are already in one, you really have to look seriously at the relationship and decide whether it strengthens or weakens you.

I see so many of my friends in their twenties in serious relationships. Many of them are held back by their man. Some do have encouraging guys, which is great to see! But it hurts me to think that my friends may not become who they wanted to be just because they feel stuck in their relationship. You are never, ever stuck.

If you are single and looking to be in a relationship, take the following advice:

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Once you know who you are and feel as though you are in a good place in life, the right person will come along. !

Remain ambitious, driven and persistent – it may deter the wrong guys but the right guy will love you for it! Remember:

Strong women only intimidate weak men.

Once you love yourself and love your life, everything will fall into place.

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx