Allow Yourself to GROW

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I read somewhere that 50% of the people we have in our lives don’t want to see us do well. They don’t want to hear about your dreams, and if you still choose to tell them, they will tell you that you can’t do it, and secretly wish failure upon you. Roosh summarizes these people perfectly below:

They want you to fail because your success is their failure. It reminds them of their laziness, their poor work ethic. Their subtle jabs and withholding of encouragement are aimed to keep you in an inferior station. No one wants to see someone rise at faster speed than themselves.

There is no point in telling other people your goals. They will talk you out of it or give you bad advice. There is no point trying to convince others of your world view. They will plant seeds of doubts that prevent you from action and seeing the truth. The minute you go just slightly higher than you have been, they will try to sabotage you. They are the worrymongers, fearmongers, scaremongers, shamemongers, guilt-trippers, trolls, and haters. Ignore them. Feeding them brings you down to their level, which is exactly what they want.

Now as someone who is quite aware of those kind of people, I certainly don’t believe that 50% of the people in my life are like this at all. However I do know a few, and one in particular that definitely needs to be let go of.

I allow these people to remain in my life, even though I know they have served their purpose and it is time for me to move on. They remind me of the person I was, or the person I’m trying to move away from, and the familiarity I feel for them is probably what makes me keep them around.

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I’m challenging myself this weekend to say good bye to one of these people, to ask them not to contact me anymore. I need to do this for myself so that I can properly become the person I feel I am becoming. It will be hard, but if I don’t let go of this person, I feel my life and I will not grow.

I challenge all you amazing people this weekend to have a good think about if you have any of these kind of people in your life – ex lovers, friends, old colleagues, acquaintances etc. If you feel that a particular person does not help you grow or even inhibits you from growing, it’s time to cut the strings.

You may be comfortable where you are, surrounded by familiar people, but are these people wishing you well? Do they inspire you to set goals and achieve them, or do they try to hold you in the place you are in right now, not wanting you to grow because if you do, they are afraid they will lose you?

You need to do what’s best for yourself and surround yourself with the people who wish you well, who are happy for your successes, celebrate your victories and do not find joy in your failures. I’m sure you can look at the people in your life and know whether they help you grow or not.

So I encourage you to get up the strength to let go of the people that don’t wish you well, you’ll make room for the positive people in your life, and find it much easier to achieve your goals and dreams once you are surrounded by like minded people who want to see you climb mountains.

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Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Make your social media more positive!

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It’s no lie that most of us spend far too much time on social media than we’d like to admit!

Rather than telling you to just spend less time on Facebook, Instagram and whatever else you use (I admit, I couldn’t do it easily either!), I’m going to tell you how to use these hours you “waste” in a more productive and inspiring way.

We personalize our bedrooms, knowing that we spend a lot of time there, so why not personalize our social media channels too!

Positivity on Facebook…

  • Unfollow negative people: there are some people on Facebook constantly complaining about things and each time you scroll past one of their posts you probably think “nobody cares”, their mood then affects you, even if only for a second. To avoid this simply go onto their profile and there will be a little box saying “Following”, press that button and you have unfollowed them. Now their negativity will no longer appear in your news feed. Do this with as many people as you want!
  • Like positive pages: if you’re like me and love quotes, there are some great quote pages on Facebook, go and like a bunch and you will soon see your news feed become more positive! My all time favourite one is Positive Outlooks.
  • Don’t try to start social media fights: there are such a waste of time, if you don’t like what someone has to say, unfollow or unfriend them. If it is directed at you, block them. Just because they are seeking attention in a negative way it does not mean you have to become involved.
  • Block creepy people: if there are people that continuously annoy you on Facebook, block them. Guys who are always trying to talk to you, just seeing what you’re up to etc. These people put you in an annoyed and frustrated mood, so do yourself a favour, stop letting them put you in these moods and stop them from being able to contact you.
  • Post positive things: generally if you only put up positive things, you won’t receive negative responses. You may even encourage your close friends to become more positive on social media too!

Positivity on Instagram…

  • Don’t follow people who you don’t actually care about: if you always see someone’s posts, you never like them and just scroll past them, simply unfollow them. That two seconds you use to scroll past them, could of been used to look at something inspiring!
  • Unfollow negative people: same as on Facebook, if they post negative things or things you don’t like, get rid of them. Some of my pet hates are people doing drugs, constantly complaining they’re fat or whining about not having a boyfriend.
  • Follow inspiring people: people that you look up to whether they are celebrities, fitness models or even people you know. If they are doing something great with their lives, follow them. Hopefully they will inspire you to go out and do great things with your life!
  • Follow educational accounts: I love to follow fitness accounts and learn about new exercises, there’s so many accounts out there for every single thing you could imagine, so whatever it is that you want to learn more about, search for it.
  • Follow pages that make you smile: for me these are puppy pages! Travel accounts are great too, and quote pages!

I have included a list below of my all time favourite Instagram accounts with a description of each, so if you’re looking to add some vibrancy, positivity and a bit of cuteness to your Instagram feed, give some of these a follow!

Random pages (but definitely two of my absolute favourite accounts!)

  • mermaidsofhawaii: a company in Hawaii that turns people into mermaids for photoshoots.
  • _bahamasgirl_: an underwater model in the Bahamas who swims with all kinds of sea creatures.

For health and fitness:

  • lovehealthfitness: A gorgeous girl that posts clean and super pretty photos of food!
  • motivationwall: quotes, health and fitness motivation.
  • emilyskyefit: an Australia fitness model that promotes positive body image.
  • buttguide: great leg and booty workouts! :D
  • womenshealthaus: quotes, fitness and posts that will make you giggle.
  • 6packguide: new ab exercises to strengthen you.
  • gym_videos; loads of videos with new exercises for you to try!

For cute dogs:

  • barkleythepom: A hilarious pomeranian puppy that gets dressed up and goes on adventures.
  • themightyrufus: an english bulldog that belongs to my friend. He isn’t cute at all but he will make you laugh!
  • spartacuspup: an adorable puppy family.

For extraordinary and inspiring people:

  • laurasykora: a yogi, but even if you’re not into yoga, follow her. She posts the most gorgeous photos, especially when her kids get in them!
  • lyzabethlopez: a beautiful woman who inspires hundreds of thousands of people.
  • devinbrugman: a girl who is always in a bikini and always on vacation somewhere amazing.
  • ashaburnley: a very positive female role model who is always thankful and happy.
  • melissaambrosini: an amazing female blogger who radiates self-love and encourages others to do the same.
  • the_be_life: a girl whose heart just bursts with positivity and happiness, she posts amazing videos.

Quote accounts

  • motivation__daily
  • lovequotes578
  • achievetheimpossible
  • heysoul__
  • thinkdifferents
  • lifequotes1235
  • instapositivity
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And on Instagram: @kkkirstin

 

Sending lots of love and positive vibes to you all,

Kirstin xx

Remember who you are

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It’s easy to lose sight of who we are when we are crazy busy and I am so guilty of this.

I have started back university and work for a nightclub as a manager now and in all my business, lack of sleep and exhaustion, I completely forget who I am.

I’ve stopped writing (until now), stopped posting positive quotes on my Instagram and Facebook page, stopped meditation and yoga and stopped finding time to go to the beach.

My reality check came in the form of a guy I am seeing who encourages me to come to the beach with him and just to chill. I love how he is a really busy person too but still finds time to chill and go to the beach almost every day.

I am always stressed and have been complaining a lot and letting things get to me, when really if I just stayed true to who I was, and made time for things that make me feel happy, I’d be fine.

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So I’m pledging to make more time for myself from now on.

If you feel like you’ve lost sight of who you are, take a step back and remember what makes you happy, and then make time for those things!

Often we are far more stressed than we should be and if we just stop to chill out regularly, I think we’ll all be better off.

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Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Don’t let life overwhelm you

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Every day we are faced with issues and moments that seem scary, annoying or stressful and we easily become overwhelmed by the entire situation.

I am usually a fairly happy and relaxed person but if something or someone gets to me, I do become overwhelmed very quickly. I never really noticed it before but over the past few weeks it has become so obvious to me. I realised that like any emotion, this can be changed if I stop myself before I reach a point of complete frustration/anger/annoyance.

It’s hard to realise that you are becoming annoyed and not something many of us do! But if you know your signs and symptoms and can recognise them starting to display themselves, then you can actually take control of the situation. For me, the most obvious one is that I start to become very hot and if the weather is already warm, I will start to sweat. I also think of a thousand things at once and my whole body tenses up.

When I start to notice any of these signs, I find the most helpful thing is to tell myself one of the following things:

  • Do not get overwhelmed by this situation
  • This situation should not be so overwhelming
  • Just relax
  • Stop what you are doing and just breathe

Once I have acknowledged that I am becoming overwhelmed, I find it rather easy to take control and to just step back for a moment, breathe and relax.

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Life can try its hardest to stress you out, annoy you and bring you down but you just have to be strong and say: No, life, you are not going to overwhelm me!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Draw How It Feels To Be Happy

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A lovely person that I met a while ago gave me the above book called “1001 Ways to Happiness”. One of my favourite things in it was this:

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A few months ago I spent one Saturday and one Sunday morning sitting at my desk thinking about what happiness felt like to me. It was hard to draw surprisingly, putting a feeling into colours, lines and images. However I in the end it was a really wonderful process and I felt it was accurate for me. It is now stuck on one of my bedroom walls and I look at it almost every day.

My drawing of how it feels to be happy

My drawing of how it feels to be happy

We feel happiness so many times through life, and recognising how it feels and what it looks like it not something we often do. But through recognition we can find many benefits. If you are struggling to find happiness now, or at any other stage in life, you can bring yourself back to your drawing and hopefully it will provide you with some peace and belief that you will feel happy again soon.

Also if you feel like your life is often lacking happiness, by undertaking this drawing, you may in fact notice that you know what happiness feels like and that you often do feel happy, without even realising it.

I found the exercise very meditative and calming as it it brings you back to focus on yourself. We spend so much time rushing from here to there, not really present in the moment or stopping to smile. Hopefully you will do this exercise and you find some serenity through the process.

If you struggle to put your feelings on paper try thinking about whether any of the following things make you happy:

  • People
  • Places
  • Colours
  • Memories
  • Movements
  • Images

And that’s just to name a few! Hopefully your creative and imaginative self is inspired to get drawing. And if you’re still struggling, just draw! Put pen to paper, go with the flow and draw what feels right.

Next time you have some spare time, grab some paper and markers and draw how it feels to be happy!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx