Listen to your gut feeling

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A few weeks ago I was talking with a yoga instructor about intuitive feelings. If we learn to listen to these feelings, she said, we get a strong sense on “YES ABSOLUTELY GO FOR IT” (she threw her arms out wide and beamed with a smile) or “no that isn’t going to be a good option for you” (she wrapped her arms around herself in a protective way).

I have known about intuitive feelings for a while, but only really started noticing them and acting on them when I was 18 and ending a serious relationship. But gut feelings don’t just come up when you are facing a big decision, they come up with every decision you make, if you listen closely enough to yourself.

For me, if I am faced with a decision and go with the option that is against my gut feeling (probably because I chose to ignore it or just acted so quickly that I didn’t give myself the time to figure out was best), I will feel anxious, nervous, pain in my chest and normally very on edge. Sometimes I even tear up or just have a lump in my throat. When all of these signs start to happen, it’s only then that I relaise I am going against my gut feeling. My body starts physically giving me signs to steer me in another direction.

But if I give myself time to think about a decision and realise what is best for me before acting on it, my body is much happier for it. I feel calm, at peace and as though my heart is smiling.

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While all of these feelings can come up in daily settings, I know not all of them are intuitive, for example, feeling anxious before a presentation certainly doesn’t mean you should walk away from it by any means! You just have to listen to yourself, your body and your spirit deep down know what is best for you and what isn’t, so trust them.

For those of you that are not in tune with your intuition, guided meditations and yoga are a great place to start. Spending time alone, in quiet places, like walking on the beach, also helps.

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My intuition has never lead me wrong, the only ways I have been lead wrong in the past is if I completely ignore it or act too quickly! So I am going to try to avoid doing those things and hope my life can remain relatively peaceful as a result.

I encourage all of you to get in touch with your intuition – start listening to yourself. In society so many people tell us what to do each day but there’s only one person who knows what is best for you, and that is you!

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Wishing you so much happiness and peace,

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Never Comprimise

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Lately I have been feeling a bit down because I am in my final semester of university and feel like my degree hasn’t really gotten me anywhere in particular and I have no idea what I will do next year or with my life in general. People have told me to do post graduate studies because it will get me to where I want to be.. but 3 years at university sure didn’t.

I feel as though a university education just makes you become like everyone else, but what if I don’t want to be like everyone else?

I know the results I want my life to produce – to help others, to inspire others and to just make a difference – but I am not sure what actions to take to produce these results!

My sister suggested going along to a movie with her last night so I happily went along, not sure what to expect. I am so glad I went though because it was one of the most life changing nights of my life.

A community of like-minded positive people gathered in a small yoga studio, with vegan treats and chai tea, huddled on bean bags to watch the movie Finding Joe. The movie was the perfect thing I needed in my life right now. Afterwards everyone stayed around and talked to each other. To see strangers talking openly and warmly to other strangers was a beautiful thing and my sister and I felt so included in this little community.

If this night helped me realize one thing it’s to never compromise yourself. Your dreams are important and you need to listen to them. The people who tell you to go to university, to do post graduate studies, to get a well paid job and live like the majority of other people – they are the unlucky one’s. They are the one’s who won’t find bliss.

While they may shake their heads and laugh at you, don’t let it compromise your hopes and dreams. Even if they tell you your plans are not realistic – don’t listen to them. You just continue on your path, even if it’s hard. You will get there one day.

Other’s settle for a job or a life that’s just okay because they fear failure. They fear another opportunity will never come along so they just take whatever they can get and live the safe life.

But I can’t settle for that. And I hope you won’t either. I hope you follow your passions, listen to your calling and chase your dreams. It will be hard and you will struggle many times along the way. But it’s going to be okay. Or maybe it won’t be. Maybe instead of being okay, it’s going to be grand, magnificent and spectacular.

To finish this post I have included quotes by Joseph Campbell (that’s who the movie was based on). And if you have the opportunity to watch Finding Joe (you can buy it online), I highly recommend it because it helped me so much and I hope it helps you too!

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Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Even Grown Ups Are Unsure About Where They Are Going

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As young adults (yeah, we’re grown ups now!) we constantly feel that if we are not 100% sure what we want to do with our lives, that we are less successful as a person. We feel we are far behind, lost and that we’re never going to get to where we want to be because we don’t even know where that is.

When I speak to my friends, we all seem to be in this same place. We are determined and motivated people but discouraged by the fact that we don’t really know where we are going. Unsure of our “dream career,” what we are doing after we have graduated, or even which job to go to next, each time we are asked about these things we simply say “I’m not really sure.” These four words eat at us and make us question what we want in life, who we are and if we will ever truly find our life purpose.

This is such a negative way to think, we all need to realise that not knowing where we are going is not such a bad thing!

People who are unsure of where they are heading are often far more open to opportunities that arise. They are the type of people who seize the moment. They tend to be happier people and more sure of themselves because they are finding what their purpose is by figuring out what their purpose definitely is not.

I think the one thing that helps me get through the day and helps me know that everything I’m doing isn’t for nothing, is having a strong sense of my life goal. To inspire others. At different stages of my life there was additional words added to this goal, such as specific ways I was to do this, but I decided to shorten it as it felt more right for me.

When opportunities come up I ask myself whether this opportunity is somewhat achieving my life goal, and if it is, I will seize it, and if not, I may let it pass. Although I don’t particularly know what career I will end up in, I know that I will end up doing something that inspires others and this is such a beautiful thought!

If you don’t have a life goal, I strongly encourage you to spend some time thinking about it. Think about the thing or things that make you burst with happiness and you’ll be on your way to discovering what that is. I know it is hard to figure it out so take your time.

So many people do not know where they are going, far more people than you would realise!

You are not alone by any means. Plus you’re still young and you have so much life ahead of you. Have faith that it will be amazing, meaningful and make you oh, so happy!

I decided to finish this post off with a piece of text. When I finished high school, our principal read a Dr Seuss book to us. I have included the full text from “Oh the Places You’ll Go” below. If you haven’t read it in a while, I strongly encourage you to take a few minutes to read it. I promise it will be worth your while! Particularly if you are feeling lost and unsure of yourself and your life, give it a read!

Congratulations!
Today is your day.
You’re off to Great Places!
You’re off and away!

You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes
You can steer yourself
any direction you choose.
You’re on your own.  And you know what you know.
And YOU are the guy who’ll decide where to go.

You’ll look up and down streets.  Look ‘em over with care.
About some you will say, “I don’t choose to go there.”
With your head full of brains and your shoes full of feet,
you’re too smart to go down any not-so-good street.

And you may not find any
you’ll want to go down.
In that case, of course,
you’ll head straight out of town.

It’s opener there
in the wide open air.

Out there things can happen
and frequently do
to people as brainy
and footsy as you.

And when things start to happen,
don’t worry.  Don’t stew.
Just go right along.
You’ll start happening too.

OH!
THE PLACES YOU’LL GO!

You’ll be on your way up!
You’ll be seeing great sights!
You’ll join the high fliers
who soar to high heights.

You won’t lag behind, because you’ll have the speed.
You’ll pass the whole gang and you’ll soon take the lead.
Wherever you fly, you’ll be the best of the best.
Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.

Except when you don’t
Because, sometimes, you won’t.

I’m sorry to say so
but, sadly, it’s true
and Hang-ups
can happen to you.

You can get all hung up
in a prickle-ly perch.
And your gang will fly on.
You’ll be left in a Lurch.

You’ll come down from the Lurch
with an unpleasant bump.
And the chances are, then,
that you’ll be in a Slump.

And when you’re in a Slump,
you’re not in for much fun.
Un-slumping yourself
is not easily done.

You will come to a place where the streets are not marked.
Some windows are lighted.  But mostly they’re darked.
A place you could sprain both your elbow and chin!
Do you dare to stay out?  Do you dare to go in?
How much can you lose? How much can you win?

And IF you go in, should you turn left or right…
or right-and-three-quarters? Or, maybe, not quite?
Or go around back and sneak in from behind?
Simple it’s not, I’m afraid you will find,
for a mind-maker-upper to make up his mind.

You can get so confused
that you’ll start in to race
down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace
and grind on for miles across weirdish wild space,
headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.
The Waiting Place…

…for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go
or a bus to come, or a plane to go
or the mail to come, or the rain to go
or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow
or waiting around for a Yes or a No
or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.

Waiting for the fish to bite
or waiting for wind to fly a kite
or waiting around for Friday night
or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake
or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants
or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
Everyone is just waiting.

NO!
That’s not for you!

Somehow you’ll escape
all that waiting and staying.
You’ll find the bright places
where Boom Bands are playing.

With banner flip-flapping,
once more you’ll ride high!
Ready for anything under the sky.
Ready because you’re that kind of a guy!

Oh, the places you’ll go! There is fun to be done!
There are points to be scored.  there are games to be won.
And the magical things you can do with that ball
will make you the winning-est winner of all.
Fame!  You’ll be famous as famous can be,
with the whole wide world watching you win on TV.

Except when they don’t.
Because, sometimes, they won’t.

I’m afraid that some times
you’ll play lonely games too.
Games you can’t win
’cause you’ll play against you.

All Alone!
Whether you like it or not,
Alone will be something
you’ll be quite a lot.

And when you’re alone, there’s a very good chance
you’ll meet things that scare you right out of your pants.
There are some, down the road between hither and yon,
that can scare you so much you won’t want to go on.

But on you will go
though the weather be foul
On you will go
though your enemies prowl
On you will go
though the Hakken-Kraks howl
Onward up many
a frightening creek,
though your arms may get sore
and your sneakers may leak.

On and on you will hike
and I know you’ll hike far
and face up to your problems
whatever they are.

You’ll get mixed up, of course,
as you already know.
You’ll get mixed up
with many strange birds as you go.
So be sure when you step.
Step with care and great tact
and remember that Life’s
a Great Balancing Act.
Just never forget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.

And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and 3/4 percent guaranteed.)

KID, YOU’LL MOVE MOUNTAINS!

So…
be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray
or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O’Shea,
you’re off to Great Places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So…get on your way!

I hope this post has made you feel better about not knowing what career you will do. There are so many of us in this situation, just try to figure our your life goal so you have a bit more purpose and have faith that your life is going to be amazing!

I hope I have inspired you to keep on going, even if you don’t know your destination, cause going is the best way to be!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Make your social media more positive!

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It’s no lie that most of us spend far too much time on social media than we’d like to admit!

Rather than telling you to just spend less time on Facebook, Instagram and whatever else you use (I admit, I couldn’t do it easily either!), I’m going to tell you how to use these hours you “waste” in a more productive and inspiring way.

We personalize our bedrooms, knowing that we spend a lot of time there, so why not personalize our social media channels too!

Positivity on Facebook…

  • Unfollow negative people: there are some people on Facebook constantly complaining about things and each time you scroll past one of their posts you probably think “nobody cares”, their mood then affects you, even if only for a second. To avoid this simply go onto their profile and there will be a little box saying “Following”, press that button and you have unfollowed them. Now their negativity will no longer appear in your news feed. Do this with as many people as you want!
  • Like positive pages: if you’re like me and love quotes, there are some great quote pages on Facebook, go and like a bunch and you will soon see your news feed become more positive! My all time favourite one is Positive Outlooks.
  • Don’t try to start social media fights: there are such a waste of time, if you don’t like what someone has to say, unfollow or unfriend them. If it is directed at you, block them. Just because they are seeking attention in a negative way it does not mean you have to become involved.
  • Block creepy people: if there are people that continuously annoy you on Facebook, block them. Guys who are always trying to talk to you, just seeing what you’re up to etc. These people put you in an annoyed and frustrated mood, so do yourself a favour, stop letting them put you in these moods and stop them from being able to contact you.
  • Post positive things: generally if you only put up positive things, you won’t receive negative responses. You may even encourage your close friends to become more positive on social media too!

Positivity on Instagram…

  • Don’t follow people who you don’t actually care about: if you always see someone’s posts, you never like them and just scroll past them, simply unfollow them. That two seconds you use to scroll past them, could of been used to look at something inspiring!
  • Unfollow negative people: same as on Facebook, if they post negative things or things you don’t like, get rid of them. Some of my pet hates are people doing drugs, constantly complaining they’re fat or whining about not having a boyfriend.
  • Follow inspiring people: people that you look up to whether they are celebrities, fitness models or even people you know. If they are doing something great with their lives, follow them. Hopefully they will inspire you to go out and do great things with your life!
  • Follow educational accounts: I love to follow fitness accounts and learn about new exercises, there’s so many accounts out there for every single thing you could imagine, so whatever it is that you want to learn more about, search for it.
  • Follow pages that make you smile: for me these are puppy pages! Travel accounts are great too, and quote pages!

I have included a list below of my all time favourite Instagram accounts with a description of each, so if you’re looking to add some vibrancy, positivity and a bit of cuteness to your Instagram feed, give some of these a follow!

Random pages (but definitely two of my absolute favourite accounts!)

  • mermaidsofhawaii: a company in Hawaii that turns people into mermaids for photoshoots.
  • _bahamasgirl_: an underwater model in the Bahamas who swims with all kinds of sea creatures.

For health and fitness:

  • lovehealthfitness: A gorgeous girl that posts clean and super pretty photos of food!
  • motivationwall: quotes, health and fitness motivation.
  • emilyskyefit: an Australia fitness model that promotes positive body image.
  • buttguide: great leg and booty workouts! :D
  • womenshealthaus: quotes, fitness and posts that will make you giggle.
  • 6packguide: new ab exercises to strengthen you.
  • gym_videos; loads of videos with new exercises for you to try!

For cute dogs:

  • barkleythepom: A hilarious pomeranian puppy that gets dressed up and goes on adventures.
  • themightyrufus: an english bulldog that belongs to my friend. He isn’t cute at all but he will make you laugh!
  • spartacuspup: an adorable puppy family.

For extraordinary and inspiring people:

  • laurasykora: a yogi, but even if you’re not into yoga, follow her. She posts the most gorgeous photos, especially when her kids get in them!
  • lyzabethlopez: a beautiful woman who inspires hundreds of thousands of people.
  • devinbrugman: a girl who is always in a bikini and always on vacation somewhere amazing.
  • ashaburnley: a very positive female role model who is always thankful and happy.
  • melissaambrosini: an amazing female blogger who radiates self-love and encourages others to do the same.
  • the_be_life: a girl whose heart just bursts with positivity and happiness, she posts amazing videos.

Quote accounts

  • motivation__daily
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  • achievetheimpossible
  • heysoul__
  • thinkdifferents
  • lifequotes1235
  • instapositivity
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Sending lots of love and positive vibes to you all,

Kirstin xx

Wish Others Well

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Sometimes when you’re down or stuck it’s hard to see people around you succeeding and finding happiness. Often we envy this or feel jealous. Sometimes we try to sabotage it as we feel If I’m not happy, no one else should be…

You will find that by wishing unhappiness on others, failures and for doors to close on them, you won’t become any happier. There’s no little fairy that will magically transfer their happiness onto you.

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I see people around me that do this all the time and I know it’s a common issue in many people’s lives, so here are my suggestions for those of you that do this:

  • When someone tells you some good news, ask them more about it, congratulate them and tell them how happy you are for them (regardless of whether you are or not). Overtime you can trick your mind into actually becoming happy for them. And seeing people light up and get excited when they speak of their happiness is such a beautiful thing.
  • If while someone is telling you about their success, you immediately have thoughts in your head like ‘I don’t care about you or your success, my life is not going well, this isn’t fair,’ try to shut the thoughts out immediately, just focus on what the person is saying and try to smile and block out those negative thoughts.
  • Let those who are doing well inspire you. If you’re looking for a way to bring more joy into your life, learn what it is that they are doing and perhaps you can apply some of those principals to your own life.
  • If you find yourself continually feeling negative towards others good news, ask yourself ‘Why am I feeling like this?‘ and ‘What can I do to change this feeling?‘ You will find that by sorting your own life out, rather than continuously putting things off, you will become a happier person and accepting others happiness will come easier.

These are just a few of my suggestions and I hope they help! The ability to be happy for others and wish them well is a great life skill to have. Life is too short to be full of jealousy. If you are constantly comparing yourself to others and competing with them to find happiness, you’ll find those around you will find happiness, but you won’t.

I have reached the stage when I hear about other people’s happiness, success and good news I become happy for them and in turn, that increases the happiness within me. I hope all of you can find this beautiful place too!

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Have an amazing, blissful and gorgeous weekend!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

My View on Relationships

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I always write posts about the thing that has been on my mind the most lately, and so today’s post is about love and relationships.

If you don’t know, I’ve been single for three years and have dated but never found myself in a relationship. Yes, some may say I have chosen the wrong guys to be around but for me, I have a strong intuitive feeling, and if something is not worth pursuing, then I wont pursue it.

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None of us should waste time on people that we don’t feel will add something to our lives.

I am very lucky that my parents have so much love between them, they have shown my siblings and I how great love can be. They inspired me to never settle for something less than that.

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After recently meeting someone very amazing, that I can see a great future with, I decided to share with you all the six things I believe are key to a successful relationship. They are inspired by my parents amazing relationship, plus my own life experience.

  • Your partner should challenge you. He/she should encourage you to become a better person and inspire to go for what you want. If you don’t know what you want, your partner should make you feel as though, with their love, you are able to discover just what it is.
  • You should be able to grow together. I believe we continuously grow in life, every single day, if we choose to. You should find someone that wants to continue growing and not just remain stuck in the same place. Not only should they seek growth in their own life, but also growth in the life you create together,
  • You should want your children to be like your partner. If you can look at your partner and think “He/she would make an amazing father/mother”, then to me, that’s love. You should love the qualities they have, the person they are and the person they are becoming.
  • You each should have your own projects. As much as creating a life together and being together is important, you both have different interests and need to pursue these projects individually in order to make the projects you pursue together successful.
  • Your partner should be the only person you want (and you should be the only person they want). Working on your relationship and doing what it takes to keep the other happy is so important. Even if you both get attention from other people, I once read a quote which I think sums this up nicely: “It doesn’t matter who wants me, I only want you”.
  • You should fall in love with them over and over again. A great partner is someone who can continue to do things to make you smile, even 20 years down the track. Your relationship should always be a priority, no matter how busy life gets.

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If you are yet to find great love, do what it is that you love, and you will find by focusing on yourself and bettering yourself, you will attract the right kind of people.

If you are currently on a love journey, enjoy it, put time and effort into it and it may just become one of the greatest love stories of all time.

And for those of you that have already found it, hold onto it, cherish it and preach it. Not enough people believe in great love these days, so remind everyone that it does exist.

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Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

 

Get out of your rut

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We all get stuck in ruts, but once you realise you are in one, it’s often hard to get out.I recently got out of a rut I’d been in for two months, so I decided to share my story with you all on how I got out of it.

I left my job last week, I had wanted to for months because I felt I really needed to focus on my final year of studies. But I kept putting it off week after week, as I was too scared to make such a huge change.

However last Tuesday, I just became so stressed that I needed to do something about it. I called my best friend up and she had heard about my stress, tiredness, and wanting to quit for months now. She would always be there for me and offer some kind of advice but last Tuesday was different. She said:

“Okay, we need an attitude change. We need to change. Both of us. We are turning into different people. I don’t like who I am becoming. You aren’t happy in your job… You are going to get your positivity back, and so am I… I think we need to remember who we were last year… we were beautiful, caring, amazing young women ready to take on this world! That’s still us but I feel both of us are bogged down right now. We were focused on positivity, self love and acceptance. We need to get back to that. I really need this, and I need it before I forget to value myself.”

She had recently left her job too, I had become selfish, just focusing on my own problems, burdening her with my stresses and brought her down.

I had not seen the situation from this perspective and this made me so sad that I had dragged my amazing friend down with me. I was determined to make a change and the change had to happen that day because it’s sad for me to be down all the time but it was heartbreaking to think I brought my friend down with me.

My friend helped me out of this rut and I am so thankful to have such a beautiful soul in my life. If you’re in a rut here are my suggestions as to how you can get out of it:

  • Look at it from a different perspective, e.g. is your rut affecting more than just you?
  • Turn to a friend or family member and ask them to be brutally honest with you
  • Reflect on who you used to be, and if you’d rather be that person, figure out what it will take for you to get back there
  • Pinpoint the parts of your life that are bringing you down and work out how you can change them
  • And finally, have some courage! Making changes can be a scary thing, but you know what’s even scarier? Not making changes, staying in a rut and continuing to live life unhappily.

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It’s been almost a week since I left my job and I feel my life has completely turned around. I wake up smiling each day, have more time for myself and my studies and just feel I’m becoming a much happier person again. My friend is the same and we’re getting our happy back together.

We all need to be aware that our behaviors can affect those closest to us. If you’re down all the time, chances are you may be bringing a friend down with you. It’s not til you stop and see this, that you realise how much it hurts.

Get out of your rut, and make changes today.

Be positive and be there for your loved ones.

Be happy together.

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Believe that you deserve the best

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If you ever feel like you deserve to be treated better, you’re absolutely right, you sure do.

You deserve to feel that everyone in your life is helping you become a better person.

And know that anyone who does not help you to become a better person, does not deserve a second of your time.

You don’t need to be around negative, dream-crushing, soul-draining people.

Have the strength to walk away or let go of anyone that like this.

You deserve the best, and by removing these other people from your life, you make space for new people to come into your life.

One’s that will have a more positive effect on you.

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Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Be present

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When life becomes stressful and difficult often we zone out of reality. We just do what needs to be done, with our minds in another place. Sometimes it can go on for days or weeks before we snap out of it and realise the joyless days we have been living.

I personally have noticed that being present is tied closely to my happiness. When I am present, I appreciate the moment, I smile a lot more, complain a lot less and am glad to be alive. If I have been absent in my life for a few days I feel lazy, tired, grumpy and just over everything.

So why don’t we all just stop being absent and start being present everyday?

Because it’s hard. Being present is something that needs to be practiced every day before it becomes a habit. I try to be present in my own life every single day but when I become really busy, I forget to do (or don’t make time for) the things that make me present and happy.

Now that a the Easter long weekend is upon us, there is so much time for all of us to remind ourselves of what we need to do to stay present in our own lives. Exercise, meditation, getting fresh air and eating healthy foods all help, so you’ve just go to find what works for you.

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My absolute favourite thing is visiting the beach. Walking on the sand, sun baking and swimming in the salty water helps me to feel alive and once I’ve done that, I find my days are easier to manage and I am so much more present.

Have a beautiful long weekend and I hope that you find plenty of time to be present this weekend, next week, and every other week that follows.

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

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Know that everyone comes into your life for a reason

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We can make peace with all the relationships in our lives if we can accept this simple fact: that everyone comes into your life for a reason.

When relationships end or friends disappear, often we get so caught up in the emotions of it all that we forget to look at what we learned from them or how that relationship helped us grow as a person. I’m going to provide two semi-recent examples of my own life so hopefully you understand what I mean.

I dated an American guy last year for a little while and once it ended I was so caught up in the hurt he caused initially. But after a while, and especially recently, I have made peace with it and I know one amazingly great thing that came from that relationship!

He introduced me to Zac Brown Band. This American country group changed my life! I was never into country music but this music has a beach vibe to it and I just love it. So if the reason I met him was so that I would learn about that band, I think it’s a pretty great thing!

Recently I was dating a Fijian guy and after a while of trying and trying so much to make it work, I just gave up. However the time I spent with him was great and I was really proud of myself for dating a Fijian guy because I was so hurt by one years ago and never thought I would ever want to date a Fijian guy again.

I had so many hang ups and so many cultural things initially reminded me of my failed engagement (read from half-way down that post if you are interested). But eventually I could accept that he was Fijian and I accepted his culture.

No longer it reminded me of my ex-fiance or a really dark period of my life. Now that relationship is over I can look back on it and realise the reason he came into my life was to show me that I have moved on and no longer am affected by that relationship and break up.

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Sorry both my examples are guys but at this age, I have really amazing friends so I can;t complain about them! Plus in the past year or so, the things that have hurt me the most are guys, so it seemed fitting to write about them.

I encourage anyone who is still hurting from a past relationship (no matter what that relationship was) to look back on it and realise how you grew as a person and what you learned or gained from that person. Make peace with your past, so you don’t spend another minute upset over it.

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx