Make your social media more positive!

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It’s no lie that most of us spend far too much time on social media than we’d like to admit!

Rather than telling you to just spend less time on Facebook, Instagram and whatever else you use (I admit, I couldn’t do it easily either!), I’m going to tell you how to use these hours you “waste” in a more productive and inspiring way.

We personalize our bedrooms, knowing that we spend a lot of time there, so why not personalize our social media channels too!

Positivity on Facebook…

  • Unfollow negative people: there are some people on Facebook constantly complaining about things and each time you scroll past one of their posts you probably think “nobody cares”, their mood then affects you, even if only for a second. To avoid this simply go onto their profile and there will be a little box saying “Following”, press that button and you have unfollowed them. Now their negativity will no longer appear in your news feed. Do this with as many people as you want!
  • Like positive pages: if you’re like me and love quotes, there are some great quote pages on Facebook, go and like a bunch and you will soon see your news feed become more positive! My all time favourite one is Positive Outlooks.
  • Don’t try to start social media fights: there are such a waste of time, if you don’t like what someone has to say, unfollow or unfriend them. If it is directed at you, block them. Just because they are seeking attention in a negative way it does not mean you have to become involved.
  • Block creepy people: if there are people that continuously annoy you on Facebook, block them. Guys who are always trying to talk to you, just seeing what you’re up to etc. These people put you in an annoyed and frustrated mood, so do yourself a favour, stop letting them put you in these moods and stop them from being able to contact you.
  • Post positive things: generally if you only put up positive things, you won’t receive negative responses. You may even encourage your close friends to become more positive on social media too!

Positivity on Instagram…

  • Don’t follow people who you don’t actually care about: if you always see someone’s posts, you never like them and just scroll past them, simply unfollow them. That two seconds you use to scroll past them, could of been used to look at something inspiring!
  • Unfollow negative people: same as on Facebook, if they post negative things or things you don’t like, get rid of them. Some of my pet hates are people doing drugs, constantly complaining they’re fat or whining about not having a boyfriend.
  • Follow inspiring people: people that you look up to whether they are celebrities, fitness models or even people you know. If they are doing something great with their lives, follow them. Hopefully they will inspire you to go out and do great things with your life!
  • Follow educational accounts: I love to follow fitness accounts and learn about new exercises, there’s so many accounts out there for every single thing you could imagine, so whatever it is that you want to learn more about, search for it.
  • Follow pages that make you smile: for me these are puppy pages! Travel accounts are great too, and quote pages!

I have included a list below of my all time favourite Instagram accounts with a description of each, so if you’re looking to add some vibrancy, positivity and a bit of cuteness to your Instagram feed, give some of these a follow!

Random pages (but definitely two of my absolute favourite accounts!)

  • mermaidsofhawaii: a company in Hawaii that turns people into mermaids for photoshoots.
  • _bahamasgirl_: an underwater model in the Bahamas who swims with all kinds of sea creatures.

For health and fitness:

  • lovehealthfitness: A gorgeous girl that posts clean and super pretty photos of food!
  • motivationwall: quotes, health and fitness motivation.
  • emilyskyefit: an Australia fitness model that promotes positive body image.
  • buttguide: great leg and booty workouts! :D
  • womenshealthaus: quotes, fitness and posts that will make you giggle.
  • 6packguide: new ab exercises to strengthen you.
  • gym_videos; loads of videos with new exercises for you to try!

For cute dogs:

  • barkleythepom: A hilarious pomeranian puppy that gets dressed up and goes on adventures.
  • themightyrufus: an english bulldog that belongs to my friend. He isn’t cute at all but he will make you laugh!
  • spartacuspup: an adorable puppy family.

For extraordinary and inspiring people:

  • laurasykora: a yogi, but even if you’re not into yoga, follow her. She posts the most gorgeous photos, especially when her kids get in them!
  • lyzabethlopez: a beautiful woman who inspires hundreds of thousands of people.
  • devinbrugman: a girl who is always in a bikini and always on vacation somewhere amazing.
  • ashaburnley: a very positive female role model who is always thankful and happy.
  • melissaambrosini: an amazing female blogger who radiates self-love and encourages others to do the same.
  • the_be_life: a girl whose heart just bursts with positivity and happiness, she posts amazing videos.

Quote accounts

  • motivation__daily
  • lovequotes578
  • achievetheimpossible
  • heysoul__
  • thinkdifferents
  • lifequotes1235
  • instapositivity
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You can also find me on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/funiswhatyoumakeit

And on Instagram: @kkkirstin

 

Sending lots of love and positive vibes to you all,

Kirstin xx

Tell it to people straight

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There’s nothing worse than someone not being real with you, and this has become more and more obvious to me lately.

I am working at a nightclub and initially I felt fragile, vulnerable and so timid! I was scared I was doing it wrong or that they wouldn’t like my ideas. But after a few weeks of working there I feel like I have become so much stronger and better because my boss just told it to me straight. If I screwed up, he would tell me to re do something and I needed to toughen up!

This post was mostly inspired by another situation that happened recently however..

Last year I went on a date with a guy as we were working for the same modelling agency and worked on a set together. Apart from occasional shifts with that job he did nothing else with his life but played video games. He had no motivation or ambition. After our date I never wanted to see him again and he wanted me to tell him why.

So I was straight with him. I told him I am goal driven, passionate and incredibly ambitious and that I needed someone also was. He was really angry at me, abused me a bit and blocked me off of everything. I wasn’t bothered at all.

However last night he unblocked me off Facebook and said the following thing:

“Hey I just wanted to say thank you… I remember when you said I had no ambition. I said you were wrong, but you actually weren’t. I was so lost at that point in my life. You saying that kind of snapped me out of it. It actually woke me up. I was so defensive, but you were right. I think I was just cut because I knew it was true, but didn’t want to face the facts. After I kind of accepted it I thought ‘well if she thinks it, it’s more than likely others think it. I gotta do something with my life.’So, I literally jumped into everything… Joined a band. Started job searching, everything haha. Now I’m so busy with work, band, making websites, and I’m even writing a book with a friend of mine. I hardly even knew you, but you were the one to say it straight. Why couldn’t anyone else do that? This is hard for me to admit. But eh, thats kind of a main reason I got back into contact with you.”

I was so tired when I got this message last night and it made me cry. I am so glad I could inspire someone I hardly even know, just by telling it to him straight.

So next time you have to tell someone something, make sure you tell it to them straight!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Just go for it!

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I am so lucky to have so many inspiring people in my life. I have so many friends and family members that just go for things, even if they are scared to.

And you know what? Every time they go for something, they get it!

Don’t let the world dishearten you.

I remember at the beginning of my Journalism degree my to-be friends and I all sat in the same lecture hall listening to a man tell us “most of you won’t make it, this is a dying industry”. We all felt like we were prepared to fail and a bit of the spirit inside us died.

However not long after that lecture, we all began meeting each other and coming to uni/going to class just to hang out with each other.

We believed we were in this together and that thought was oh so powerful!

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Two years have passed and we are all about to begin our third year and for most of us, our last year.

Two years ago we were these scared students, not sure of our futures or if we would ever make it. But now I can happily tell you that we can make it, and we are making it! I have friends working for radio stations, magazines and getting internships at amazing places.

I myself have just landed a job doing marketing and events for the best RnB and Hip Hop nightclub in my city. I never thought I was qualified or skilled enough to get the job, but a faint glimmer of hope forced me to apply and within a few weeks they called me and told me they wanted me to start immediately.

I was beyond excited because I was so sure that I wasn’t going to be chosen!

So, what I am telling you is that YOU HAVE TO GO FOR IT. Whatever is on your mind or in your heart, you just have to take a leap of faith and give it a go.

Take that first step, it may be emailing someone, calling someone or even filling out a form. But you’re never going to get something if you don’t take that first step.

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Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

New Year’s Goals

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I intentionally did not name this post “New Year’s Resolutions” because I feel so many of us have negativity associated with that word as year after year we make resolutions that we never follow through with.

With Christmas over for another year and only a few more days left of 2013 I think it is important to look back on your resolution for this year, what was it? Did you achieve it? And if you didn’t, why not?

Maybe it was next to impossible to achieve, maybe you became lazy or found excuses as to why you could not achieve it. So many people say all of these extravagant ideas and they are overwhelmed at what it takes to achieve them.

As you begin to think about your GOAL for 2014, I have one piece of advice: make sure it is realistic! For example, rather than saying “I want to be skinny”, say “I want to find the healthiest version of me”. Figure out what the main thing you want to do in 2014 and go from there.

My 2014 goal was not too difficult for me to figure out: to inspire myself and other people.

That is ultimately my life goal and I want to keep doing great things, helping others and working towards all of the things I aim to do and be in the future!

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Come up with a great goal for 2014 that is your mantra for the year, something you remember when you are struggling and something that you will feel proud to achieve.

Make 2014 the best year yet!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Reflections of 2013

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One entire year has nearly gone by and I think it is important for each and every person to look back on their year and ask themselves the following questions:

  • What amazing things did I do this year?
  • What should I of done more of?
  • What should I of done less of?
  • What moments make me proud?

I am sure all of you wonderful people have done some really great things and it’s important to congratulate yourself on all that you achieved.

If you made a New Years’ Resolution at the start of the year, I want you to think back on it. Did you achieve it? If not, why not?

It’s important to recognise what worked and what didn’t work in 2013 so that you can move forward with your life in 2014. In a few days, I will publish a post about how to make a New Year’s Goal for next year so that it is definitely achievable for you!

For the last few years my “New Year’s Resolution” has been the exact same but only this year I feel like I have actually achieved it! It was “to be happy” or “to find happiness”. I have spent a lot of years unhappy with myself and my life, however this year I feel like I have made peace with my past, I have achieved so many wonderful things and I have found who I am. And I can say that I am happy!

I have to come up with a new goal for 2014, stay tuned to find out what it is!

At the start of this year I created this vision board for 2013:

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After looking at it, I feel I did get what I wanted to out of 2013. I think the two things that stand out to me that I didn’t achieve this year were to save money and party less. These are two things I will definitely put more effort into next year!

Although I didn’t do a few things, I feel proud of my efforts in 2013 and feel like I am in a really great place in my life, I hope you feel likewise!

Bring on 2014!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Don’t let life overwhelm you

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Every day we are faced with issues and moments that seem scary, annoying or stressful and we easily become overwhelmed by the entire situation.

I am usually a fairly happy and relaxed person but if something or someone gets to me, I do become overwhelmed very quickly. I never really noticed it before but over the past few weeks it has become so obvious to me. I realised that like any emotion, this can be changed if I stop myself before I reach a point of complete frustration/anger/annoyance.

It’s hard to realise that you are becoming annoyed and not something many of us do! But if you know your signs and symptoms and can recognise them starting to display themselves, then you can actually take control of the situation. For me, the most obvious one is that I start to become very hot and if the weather is already warm, I will start to sweat. I also think of a thousand things at once and my whole body tenses up.

When I start to notice any of these signs, I find the most helpful thing is to tell myself one of the following things:

  • Do not get overwhelmed by this situation
  • This situation should not be so overwhelming
  • Just relax
  • Stop what you are doing and just breathe

Once I have acknowledged that I am becoming overwhelmed, I find it rather easy to take control and to just step back for a moment, breathe and relax.

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Life can try its hardest to stress you out, annoy you and bring you down but you just have to be strong and say: No, life, you are not going to overwhelm me!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Sophie

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The gorgeous Sophie!!

The gorgeous Sophie!!

I was so blessed to meet one of the most beautiful people last year! I don’t actually remember how our paths crossed, but I am so glad they did! You know how sometimes you meet people and you just feel like you instantly get each other? That’s how I felt about her!

Quickly I discovered she had a blog: www.timetobefabulous.com and a Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Time-To-Be-Fabulous/168271663297562

Show her some love and like her Facebook page if you want some lovely things to appear in your news feed. She isn’t currently posting on her blog, however she has some really lovely things on there which you should check out and if you follow her, you’ll be the first to know when she does start posting again!

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She has such a magical way with words and says the loveliest things! I remember when I first read her blog, I think I read about 10 posts without even stopping to do anything! She is captivating and oh, so real! She tells it how it is and all of her posts are honest, heartfelt and sometimes even raw.

She is a university student like me with big dreams and a wonderful imagination! We both have extravagant plans for the future and I hope we will work together on some projects!

She has admitted to me that she has been in a little bit of a rut lately and unable to write when it used to come so naturally to her. She inspired me to start this blog so I hope to inspire her to get hers back up and running so that she can keep adding more positivity and fabulousness into the world!

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Sophie and I with one of Sophie’s role models – Gala Darling!

She is a breath of fresh air, a down to earth person and a wonderful friend to have. I am so glad I met Sophie because she really has made such a huge impact on my life.

A while ago (when I needed some new sayings and quotes for my bedroom walls) I copied down a number of things she had written on her blog. I thought I would share some of her advice and wisdom with you all so that you can understand just how amazing this girl is!

  • The answers to our questions are always out there, sometimes you just need to take a different route to find them!
  • I refuse to let myself take the easier path. I refuse to struggle through life feeling unhappy and miserable. I accept that there will be times when I am lonely and times when I am inconsolable and sad. Those moments are mine; I own them and deserve them. But I will not let these moments consume me. I will get back on that horse as many times as I have to because this is my life and I deserve to be living it.
  • Forget everyone else. None of it matters. What matters is you.
  • How wonderful it is to be so silly every once in a while. How incredible it is to let go and just have some fun.
  • The world is a rough place and life is often hard but that is an even better reason to be more gentle.
  • Don’t let your dreams be dreams.
  • Stand up and take responsibility of your own life. It may hurt to begin with. It may even be shocking to look at yourself so clearly that you see every flaw and every mistake you have ever made. But ignorance is not bliss. You make your bed and you lay in it. You can either chose to ignore the messy bed you have made or get the fuck out of bed and fix it. Your choice.
  • Challenges are great. They help us to improve and improvement is important for self-happiness.
  • Perhaps sweaty, dirty nightclubs really aren’t the best place to meet boys? They should teach that in schools!
  • Reward yourselves for giving life all that you have got.
  • So whatever it is that you are afraid of? Acknowledge it. Say hello. Play around with it. Fear might make us vulnerable but it also makes us human. Feel whatever you feel. Let emotion pass through you; let life take its course. Whatever happens, we are all going to be okay!
  • Don’t stop looking until you find happiness. Happiness that doesn’t come in the form of another person. But happiness that comes from self-satisfaction.
  • Let your colour shine!
  • Happy people glow.
  • Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.
  • Don’t let small people try and bring you down. The best thing is to let it be, let them say whatever they have to say and one day in the future when you are all you could ever have imagined, that is your payback. That is the best revenge.
  • The ability to recognise the good in your life is so important and should become a daily routine.

Isn’t she just so amazing!?

Sophie, you inspire me every single day and I know you will achieve amazing things in the future. I hope I can inspire you to get writing again because you have a wonderful outlook on life and I feel it needs to be out there in the world to inspire others!

So much love for you, my fellow blogger, writer and life enthusiast!!

Kirstin xx

Give people your time

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They say that “the greatest gift you can ever give someone is your time”, and I believe this to be so true!

I just spent four days with my friends and family celebrating mine and my twins 21st. The fact that so many of my family and friends traveled from all over Australia to celebrate with us, meant so much to me. They put their life on hold and gave me their time and I am so grateful for it.

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Mine and my twin’s 21st!

But you don’t always need a reason to given people your time, such as a birthday. Giving people your time will make you feel valued and appreciated and it will enhance your quality of life. Stop putting it off! Here are a few of my suggestions as to how you can give people your time:

  • Call that friend that you have been meaning to call for ages and have a really good catch up. Talk to them about everything that’s been happening in their life and tell them what you’ve been up to.
  • Ask that friend or family member you know is having a particularly rough time out for coffee or lunch. It will help them to get out and vary up their day and even if they don’t choose to open up to you, a friendly conversation may have been just what they need.
  • Next time someone’s birthday comes up, don’t just buy the first thing you see that looks like it could be given to absolutely anybody. Take the time to search high and low for the perfect present – you may even need to make it yourself! And I’m sure the lucky recipient will be even more grateful if you do!
  • Write a letter to an old pen pal (my old one is my great aunt)… you know that one you NEVER keep in touch with anymore and have been “meaning to” write to for ages? Just sit down for an hour or so and write the letter.
  • Get a really touristy postcard from the city/town you live in (or go on a holiday to) and write on it then send it to a friend you know overseas that you haven’t spoken with in a while. You said you would “keep in contact” but never really did… so send them a postcard and surprise them, show them that you do still think about them.
  • Help someone out, even if they don’t ask. For example, baby sit your friends kids or help your friend with their shopping, even accompany them to something where they would benefit from having someone there. Like if you have a friend getting a large tattoo, go with them so they have someone to talk to for those few hours.

They are just a few of my ideas, hopefully I’ve sparked a few ideas in your mind too!

I should add, with all the time you are giving to others, make sure you find some time for yourself too! Do something special for yourself, spend time with yourself each day and every so often reward yourself. Cause you are an amazing person and deserve time too!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Annabel

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Annabel’s birthday is today so it seems very appropriate to tell you all how amazing she is! She is a year younger than me and although she is still at university (having completed 2 years) she is already subeditor of a magazine! She studies Journalism and is already living her dream career, although she hasn’t even graduated yet! See below for some of her work.

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She living her dream career, she also works two other jobs because she knows how important it is to save and dreams about going to Mexico next year for her birthday. I admire her ability to save money and work three jobs, you go girl!

But more importantly, Annabel is my best friend. We met last year, as we are studying the same degree, and have basically been inseparable ever since! We just get each other and can talk about absolutely anything and everything. She doesn’t judge me for my mistakes but instead helps me through them. When we are together we are always laughing and we really do bring out the best in each other. I feel like I have known her for a life time, although its been less than two years.

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She motivates me to achieve my every dream and encourages me every step along the way. She is there for me whenever I need her, and will do just about anything for me. She gives me advice, time and happiness, and I really couldn’t ask for a better friend. We have learned so much from each other (as we are quite opposite in a lot of ways) and helped each other grow. I love being able to go to Sushi Train with her if one of us has exciting news to tell the other, being there for someone when they just have the most amazing news is the best feeling. And when Annabel has exciting news to tell me she just has this beaming grin and so much happiness in her eyes, such a beautiful human being!

Annabel is definitely going to go places in life, and I can’t wait to watch her grow and become even more amazing than she already is. I love you so much Annabel, thank you for being you!! Oh, and happy birthday!!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx