Make your social media more positive!

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It’s no lie that most of us spend far too much time on social media than we’d like to admit!

Rather than telling you to just spend less time on Facebook, Instagram and whatever else you use (I admit, I couldn’t do it easily either!), I’m going to tell you how to use these hours you “waste” in a more productive and inspiring way.

We personalize our bedrooms, knowing that we spend a lot of time there, so why not personalize our social media channels too!

Positivity on Facebook…

  • Unfollow negative people: there are some people on Facebook constantly complaining about things and each time you scroll past one of their posts you probably think “nobody cares”, their mood then affects you, even if only for a second. To avoid this simply go onto their profile and there will be a little box saying “Following”, press that button and you have unfollowed them. Now their negativity will no longer appear in your news feed. Do this with as many people as you want!
  • Like positive pages: if you’re like me and love quotes, there are some great quote pages on Facebook, go and like a bunch and you will soon see your news feed become more positive! My all time favourite one is Positive Outlooks.
  • Don’t try to start social media fights: there are such a waste of time, if you don’t like what someone has to say, unfollow or unfriend them. If it is directed at you, block them. Just because they are seeking attention in a negative way it does not mean you have to become involved.
  • Block creepy people: if there are people that continuously annoy you on Facebook, block them. Guys who are always trying to talk to you, just seeing what you’re up to etc. These people put you in an annoyed and frustrated mood, so do yourself a favour, stop letting them put you in these moods and stop them from being able to contact you.
  • Post positive things: generally if you only put up positive things, you won’t receive negative responses. You may even encourage your close friends to become more positive on social media too!

Positivity on Instagram…

  • Don’t follow people who you don’t actually care about: if you always see someone’s posts, you never like them and just scroll past them, simply unfollow them. That two seconds you use to scroll past them, could of been used to look at something inspiring!
  • Unfollow negative people: same as on Facebook, if they post negative things or things you don’t like, get rid of them. Some of my pet hates are people doing drugs, constantly complaining they’re fat or whining about not having a boyfriend.
  • Follow inspiring people: people that you look up to whether they are celebrities, fitness models or even people you know. If they are doing something great with their lives, follow them. Hopefully they will inspire you to go out and do great things with your life!
  • Follow educational accounts: I love to follow fitness accounts and learn about new exercises, there’s so many accounts out there for every single thing you could imagine, so whatever it is that you want to learn more about, search for it.
  • Follow pages that make you smile: for me these are puppy pages! Travel accounts are great too, and quote pages!

I have included a list below of my all time favourite Instagram accounts with a description of each, so if you’re looking to add some vibrancy, positivity and a bit of cuteness to your Instagram feed, give some of these a follow!

Random pages (but definitely two of my absolute favourite accounts!)

  • mermaidsofhawaii: a company in Hawaii that turns people into mermaids for photoshoots.
  • _bahamasgirl_: an underwater model in the Bahamas who swims with all kinds of sea creatures.

For health and fitness:

  • lovehealthfitness: A gorgeous girl that posts clean and super pretty photos of food!
  • motivationwall: quotes, health and fitness motivation.
  • emilyskyefit: an Australia fitness model that promotes positive body image.
  • buttguide: great leg and booty workouts! :D
  • womenshealthaus: quotes, fitness and posts that will make you giggle.
  • 6packguide: new ab exercises to strengthen you.
  • gym_videos; loads of videos with new exercises for you to try!

For cute dogs:

  • barkleythepom: A hilarious pomeranian puppy that gets dressed up and goes on adventures.
  • themightyrufus: an english bulldog that belongs to my friend. He isn’t cute at all but he will make you laugh!
  • spartacuspup: an adorable puppy family.

For extraordinary and inspiring people:

  • laurasykora: a yogi, but even if you’re not into yoga, follow her. She posts the most gorgeous photos, especially when her kids get in them!
  • lyzabethlopez: a beautiful woman who inspires hundreds of thousands of people.
  • devinbrugman: a girl who is always in a bikini and always on vacation somewhere amazing.
  • ashaburnley: a very positive female role model who is always thankful and happy.
  • melissaambrosini: an amazing female blogger who radiates self-love and encourages others to do the same.
  • the_be_life: a girl whose heart just bursts with positivity and happiness, she posts amazing videos.

Quote accounts

  • motivation__daily
  • lovequotes578
  • achievetheimpossible
  • heysoul__
  • thinkdifferents
  • lifequotes1235
  • instapositivity
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You can also find me on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/funiswhatyoumakeit

And on Instagram: @kkkirstin

 

Sending lots of love and positive vibes to you all,

Kirstin xx

Small Changes With Big Results

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Many of us spend so much time unhappy when there are small changes we can make to change this unhappiness. I have put together a list of 8 things all of us should immediately STOP doing below. Most of these things I have stopped in my life and I can definitely see results. I encourage you to find the strength to stop doing these things too.

  1. Stop drinking a ridiculous amount every weekend – you and your close circle of friends may think partying every weekend is super cool but wasting so much of your money and time definitely is not cool.
  2. Stop pretending exercise isn’t important – don’t keep saying you will get on track with your fitness in a few years because you can do it today, you can do it right now. Physical activity is so important and it will better so many aspects of your life, so go out and get moving!
  3. Stop putting others down – you’re not in high school anymore so judging other people for how they look, what they’re wearing, what they believe in etc. is not cool.
  4. Stop putting yourself down – negative self talk whether you are alone or in front of others will not add any happiness to your life. Learn how to block those thoughts out. Think and speak more positively about yourself.
  5. Stop opting for cheaper and unhealthier food options – You need to nourish and cherish your body and not fill it with unhealthy and low nutrient food. Love your body and your body will love you back.
  6. Stop comparing yourself to other people – in case you haven’t realized it yet, wishing you were someone else won’t actually make you become that person. Just focus on your own life and what you can do to improve upon yourself.
  7. Stop being involved with people who don’t care about you – if you feel like someone don’t give a shit about you, stop giving them your time and energy. It can be put to much better use.
  8. Stop putting things off – whether it’s studying, that GP or dental check up, or even calling your parents… go and do it!

Now that you know what you need to stop doing, here are 8 things you need to start doing. All of these things will add happiness to your life.

  1. Start giving compliments
  2. Start lending a hand, even when people don’t ask
  3. Start calling your parents more
  4. Start setting goals and planning for your future
  5. Start making time for your closest friends
  6. Start believing in yourself
  7. Start saving money
  8. Start loving yourself

The last one I believe is the most important thing I have written in this entire post! Once you have found a place of self-love, your life will forever be changed. All of the decisions you make will come from a loving place and you will be able to find happiness much, much easier.

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So go on, love yourself and change your life!

Lots and lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Get out of your rut

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We all get stuck in ruts, but once you realise you are in one, it’s often hard to get out.I recently got out of a rut I’d been in for two months, so I decided to share my story with you all on how I got out of it.

I left my job last week, I had wanted to for months because I felt I really needed to focus on my final year of studies. But I kept putting it off week after week, as I was too scared to make such a huge change.

However last Tuesday, I just became so stressed that I needed to do something about it. I called my best friend up and she had heard about my stress, tiredness, and wanting to quit for months now. She would always be there for me and offer some kind of advice but last Tuesday was different. She said:

“Okay, we need an attitude change. We need to change. Both of us. We are turning into different people. I don’t like who I am becoming. You aren’t happy in your job… You are going to get your positivity back, and so am I… I think we need to remember who we were last year… we were beautiful, caring, amazing young women ready to take on this world! That’s still us but I feel both of us are bogged down right now. We were focused on positivity, self love and acceptance. We need to get back to that. I really need this, and I need it before I forget to value myself.”

She had recently left her job too, I had become selfish, just focusing on my own problems, burdening her with my stresses and brought her down.

I had not seen the situation from this perspective and this made me so sad that I had dragged my amazing friend down with me. I was determined to make a change and the change had to happen that day because it’s sad for me to be down all the time but it was heartbreaking to think I brought my friend down with me.

My friend helped me out of this rut and I am so thankful to have such a beautiful soul in my life. If you’re in a rut here are my suggestions as to how you can get out of it:

  • Look at it from a different perspective, e.g. is your rut affecting more than just you?
  • Turn to a friend or family member and ask them to be brutally honest with you
  • Reflect on who you used to be, and if you’d rather be that person, figure out what it will take for you to get back there
  • Pinpoint the parts of your life that are bringing you down and work out how you can change them
  • And finally, have some courage! Making changes can be a scary thing, but you know what’s even scarier? Not making changes, staying in a rut and continuing to live life unhappily.

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It’s been almost a week since I left my job and I feel my life has completely turned around. I wake up smiling each day, have more time for myself and my studies and just feel I’m becoming a much happier person again. My friend is the same and we’re getting our happy back together.

We all need to be aware that our behaviors can affect those closest to us. If you’re down all the time, chances are you may be bringing a friend down with you. It’s not til you stop and see this, that you realise how much it hurts.

Get out of your rut, and make changes today.

Be positive and be there for your loved ones.

Be happy together.

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Be present

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When life becomes stressful and difficult often we zone out of reality. We just do what needs to be done, with our minds in another place. Sometimes it can go on for days or weeks before we snap out of it and realise the joyless days we have been living.

I personally have noticed that being present is tied closely to my happiness. When I am present, I appreciate the moment, I smile a lot more, complain a lot less and am glad to be alive. If I have been absent in my life for a few days I feel lazy, tired, grumpy and just over everything.

So why don’t we all just stop being absent and start being present everyday?

Because it’s hard. Being present is something that needs to be practiced every day before it becomes a habit. I try to be present in my own life every single day but when I become really busy, I forget to do (or don’t make time for) the things that make me present and happy.

Now that a the Easter long weekend is upon us, there is so much time for all of us to remind ourselves of what we need to do to stay present in our own lives. Exercise, meditation, getting fresh air and eating healthy foods all help, so you’ve just go to find what works for you.

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My absolute favourite thing is visiting the beach. Walking on the sand, sun baking and swimming in the salty water helps me to feel alive and once I’ve done that, I find my days are easier to manage and I am so much more present.

Have a beautiful long weekend and I hope that you find plenty of time to be present this weekend, next week, and every other week that follows.

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

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Tell it to people straight

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There’s nothing worse than someone not being real with you, and this has become more and more obvious to me lately.

I am working at a nightclub and initially I felt fragile, vulnerable and so timid! I was scared I was doing it wrong or that they wouldn’t like my ideas. But after a few weeks of working there I feel like I have become so much stronger and better because my boss just told it to me straight. If I screwed up, he would tell me to re do something and I needed to toughen up!

This post was mostly inspired by another situation that happened recently however..

Last year I went on a date with a guy as we were working for the same modelling agency and worked on a set together. Apart from occasional shifts with that job he did nothing else with his life but played video games. He had no motivation or ambition. After our date I never wanted to see him again and he wanted me to tell him why.

So I was straight with him. I told him I am goal driven, passionate and incredibly ambitious and that I needed someone also was. He was really angry at me, abused me a bit and blocked me off of everything. I wasn’t bothered at all.

However last night he unblocked me off Facebook and said the following thing:

“Hey I just wanted to say thank you… I remember when you said I had no ambition. I said you were wrong, but you actually weren’t. I was so lost at that point in my life. You saying that kind of snapped me out of it. It actually woke me up. I was so defensive, but you were right. I think I was just cut because I knew it was true, but didn’t want to face the facts. After I kind of accepted it I thought ‘well if she thinks it, it’s more than likely others think it. I gotta do something with my life.’So, I literally jumped into everything… Joined a band. Started job searching, everything haha. Now I’m so busy with work, band, making websites, and I’m even writing a book with a friend of mine. I hardly even knew you, but you were the one to say it straight. Why couldn’t anyone else do that? This is hard for me to admit. But eh, thats kind of a main reason I got back into contact with you.”

I was so tired when I got this message last night and it made me cry. I am so glad I could inspire someone I hardly even know, just by telling it to him straight.

So next time you have to tell someone something, make sure you tell it to them straight!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Just go for it!

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I am so lucky to have so many inspiring people in my life. I have so many friends and family members that just go for things, even if they are scared to.

And you know what? Every time they go for something, they get it!

Don’t let the world dishearten you.

I remember at the beginning of my Journalism degree my to-be friends and I all sat in the same lecture hall listening to a man tell us “most of you won’t make it, this is a dying industry”. We all felt like we were prepared to fail and a bit of the spirit inside us died.

However not long after that lecture, we all began meeting each other and coming to uni/going to class just to hang out with each other.

We believed we were in this together and that thought was oh so powerful!

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Two years have passed and we are all about to begin our third year and for most of us, our last year.

Two years ago we were these scared students, not sure of our futures or if we would ever make it. But now I can happily tell you that we can make it, and we are making it! I have friends working for radio stations, magazines and getting internships at amazing places.

I myself have just landed a job doing marketing and events for the best RnB and Hip Hop nightclub in my city. I never thought I was qualified or skilled enough to get the job, but a faint glimmer of hope forced me to apply and within a few weeks they called me and told me they wanted me to start immediately.

I was beyond excited because I was so sure that I wasn’t going to be chosen!

So, what I am telling you is that YOU HAVE TO GO FOR IT. Whatever is on your mind or in your heart, you just have to take a leap of faith and give it a go.

Take that first step, it may be emailing someone, calling someone or even filling out a form. But you’re never going to get something if you don’t take that first step.

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Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

New Year’s Goals

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I intentionally did not name this post “New Year’s Resolutions” because I feel so many of us have negativity associated with that word as year after year we make resolutions that we never follow through with.

With Christmas over for another year and only a few more days left of 2013 I think it is important to look back on your resolution for this year, what was it? Did you achieve it? And if you didn’t, why not?

Maybe it was next to impossible to achieve, maybe you became lazy or found excuses as to why you could not achieve it. So many people say all of these extravagant ideas and they are overwhelmed at what it takes to achieve them.

As you begin to think about your GOAL for 2014, I have one piece of advice: make sure it is realistic! For example, rather than saying “I want to be skinny”, say “I want to find the healthiest version of me”. Figure out what the main thing you want to do in 2014 and go from there.

My 2014 goal was not too difficult for me to figure out: to inspire myself and other people.

That is ultimately my life goal and I want to keep doing great things, helping others and working towards all of the things I aim to do and be in the future!

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Come up with a great goal for 2014 that is your mantra for the year, something you remember when you are struggling and something that you will feel proud to achieve.

Make 2014 the best year yet!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Reflections of 2013

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One entire year has nearly gone by and I think it is important for each and every person to look back on their year and ask themselves the following questions:

  • What amazing things did I do this year?
  • What should I of done more of?
  • What should I of done less of?
  • What moments make me proud?

I am sure all of you wonderful people have done some really great things and it’s important to congratulate yourself on all that you achieved.

If you made a New Years’ Resolution at the start of the year, I want you to think back on it. Did you achieve it? If not, why not?

It’s important to recognise what worked and what didn’t work in 2013 so that you can move forward with your life in 2014. In a few days, I will publish a post about how to make a New Year’s Goal for next year so that it is definitely achievable for you!

For the last few years my “New Year’s Resolution” has been the exact same but only this year I feel like I have actually achieved it! It was “to be happy” or “to find happiness”. I have spent a lot of years unhappy with myself and my life, however this year I feel like I have made peace with my past, I have achieved so many wonderful things and I have found who I am. And I can say that I am happy!

I have to come up with a new goal for 2014, stay tuned to find out what it is!

At the start of this year I created this vision board for 2013:

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After looking at it, I feel I did get what I wanted to out of 2013. I think the two things that stand out to me that I didn’t achieve this year were to save money and party less. These are two things I will definitely put more effort into next year!

Although I didn’t do a few things, I feel proud of my efforts in 2013 and feel like I am in a really great place in my life, I hope you feel likewise!

Bring on 2014!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Don’t let life overwhelm you

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Every day we are faced with issues and moments that seem scary, annoying or stressful and we easily become overwhelmed by the entire situation.

I am usually a fairly happy and relaxed person but if something or someone gets to me, I do become overwhelmed very quickly. I never really noticed it before but over the past few weeks it has become so obvious to me. I realised that like any emotion, this can be changed if I stop myself before I reach a point of complete frustration/anger/annoyance.

It’s hard to realise that you are becoming annoyed and not something many of us do! But if you know your signs and symptoms and can recognise them starting to display themselves, then you can actually take control of the situation. For me, the most obvious one is that I start to become very hot and if the weather is already warm, I will start to sweat. I also think of a thousand things at once and my whole body tenses up.

When I start to notice any of these signs, I find the most helpful thing is to tell myself one of the following things:

  • Do not get overwhelmed by this situation
  • This situation should not be so overwhelming
  • Just relax
  • Stop what you are doing and just breathe

Once I have acknowledged that I am becoming overwhelmed, I find it rather easy to take control and to just step back for a moment, breathe and relax.

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Life can try its hardest to stress you out, annoy you and bring you down but you just have to be strong and say: No, life, you are not going to overwhelm me!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Create a book of life accomplishments

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A particularly wonderful thing I made last year was this:

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I purchased a little notebook thinking I wanted to make a bucket list, not because I am thinking of dying soon, but because I wanted to write down all of the amazing things I hope to do in my life. Then, as I accomplish them, I can tick them off in my book. And one day, I will be able to flip through the pages of this book that I made as a young girl and realise what a great life I’ve had.

Some of the things written in the book won’t happen for many more years, but a lot of them I can work towards each and every day if I want to. This book has helped me stay motivated because whenever I find another thing I want to do, I write it in the book and find joy in knowing that one day I will actually do it!

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Currently I have 74 things listed in the book but it’s only one third full so I will write on all the pages eventually! My list contains things like children, owning my own business, publishing books I’m in the process of writing, travel plans and celebrities I want to see perform. There are some rather peculiar ones too, like spending one week in silence! I have already ticked off about five or so, and I can’t wait to tick off more!

Next time you’re at the shops, buy yourself a little notebook and when you have some spare time, start your own list. You probably won’t be able to think of many initially but you can always come back to it and add in more!

If you know what it is that you want to do with your life, you have a greater chance of actually doing it!

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Go on, start dreaming of all the things you want to do and will do!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx