100 Happy Days

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A little while ago I wrote a post about making time for the things that make you happy (you can click here to read it!).

One of my closest friends is using the ‘100 Happy Days’ Challenge as perfect example of this!  Jazmin found the challenge has helped help her find what it is that makes her happy and it also helped her recognise something good about every day, no matter how tired or stressed she was.

If you want to check her challenge out, head on over to her Instagram: @jazmingabby

And make sure to read her beautiful post below!

Lots of love, Kirstin x

 

100 Happy Days

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Recently I became very stressed, I started a new job and moved and I felt like I was constantly working for months on end!

I started doing the ‘100 Happy Days’ challenge to try to focus on the little things through my day that make me happy.

Coming home from a long shift, staying late and feeling so physically and mentally exhausted (being an RN on a surgical ward!); I would normally just switch off and watch TV or have a nap.  I realised that I had no time for me that day, and switching off will just make the tiredness worse.

So, now when coming home I do something that makes me happy, something I love.

Another thing I realised was that I figured out what things actually make ME happy. Everyone is different, and the things that make me happy are creative and low-key, and that’s ok.

Most of the people I talk to my age say that they have fun by grabbing a huge group of friends and going drinking. Personally, I could not think of anything worse. I enjoy things like quilting, makeup artistry, reading, cooking and gardening. Socially, I like having small dinners with friends and hanging out shopping or watching a movie.

Image's from Jazmin's Instagram: @jazmingabby

Image’s from Jazmin’s Instagram: @jazmingabby

Accepting what I like and actually doing it and not feeling that I have to fit in what everyone else likes, is important. I know it’s clichéd, but my main point is BE YOURSELF, the only thing that will make you happy, truly happy within yourself is being who you are.

Never mind what people think, never worry about the judgement of others, because the people who mind don’t matter, and the people who matter don’t mind.

If you’d like to sign up to do the ‘100 Happy Days’ challenge you can here; http://100happydays.com/

Have a happy day Jaz xoxo

Make your social media more positive!

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It’s no lie that most of us spend far too much time on social media than we’d like to admit!

Rather than telling you to just spend less time on Facebook, Instagram and whatever else you use (I admit, I couldn’t do it easily either!), I’m going to tell you how to use these hours you “waste” in a more productive and inspiring way.

We personalize our bedrooms, knowing that we spend a lot of time there, so why not personalize our social media channels too!

Positivity on Facebook…

  • Unfollow negative people: there are some people on Facebook constantly complaining about things and each time you scroll past one of their posts you probably think “nobody cares”, their mood then affects you, even if only for a second. To avoid this simply go onto their profile and there will be a little box saying “Following”, press that button and you have unfollowed them. Now their negativity will no longer appear in your news feed. Do this with as many people as you want!
  • Like positive pages: if you’re like me and love quotes, there are some great quote pages on Facebook, go and like a bunch and you will soon see your news feed become more positive! My all time favourite one is Positive Outlooks.
  • Don’t try to start social media fights: there are such a waste of time, if you don’t like what someone has to say, unfollow or unfriend them. If it is directed at you, block them. Just because they are seeking attention in a negative way it does not mean you have to become involved.
  • Block creepy people: if there are people that continuously annoy you on Facebook, block them. Guys who are always trying to talk to you, just seeing what you’re up to etc. These people put you in an annoyed and frustrated mood, so do yourself a favour, stop letting them put you in these moods and stop them from being able to contact you.
  • Post positive things: generally if you only put up positive things, you won’t receive negative responses. You may even encourage your close friends to become more positive on social media too!

Positivity on Instagram…

  • Don’t follow people who you don’t actually care about: if you always see someone’s posts, you never like them and just scroll past them, simply unfollow them. That two seconds you use to scroll past them, could of been used to look at something inspiring!
  • Unfollow negative people: same as on Facebook, if they post negative things or things you don’t like, get rid of them. Some of my pet hates are people doing drugs, constantly complaining they’re fat or whining about not having a boyfriend.
  • Follow inspiring people: people that you look up to whether they are celebrities, fitness models or even people you know. If they are doing something great with their lives, follow them. Hopefully they will inspire you to go out and do great things with your life!
  • Follow educational accounts: I love to follow fitness accounts and learn about new exercises, there’s so many accounts out there for every single thing you could imagine, so whatever it is that you want to learn more about, search for it.
  • Follow pages that make you smile: for me these are puppy pages! Travel accounts are great too, and quote pages!

I have included a list below of my all time favourite Instagram accounts with a description of each, so if you’re looking to add some vibrancy, positivity and a bit of cuteness to your Instagram feed, give some of these a follow!

Random pages (but definitely two of my absolute favourite accounts!)

  • mermaidsofhawaii: a company in Hawaii that turns people into mermaids for photoshoots.
  • _bahamasgirl_: an underwater model in the Bahamas who swims with all kinds of sea creatures.

For health and fitness:

  • lovehealthfitness: A gorgeous girl that posts clean and super pretty photos of food!
  • motivationwall: quotes, health and fitness motivation.
  • emilyskyefit: an Australia fitness model that promotes positive body image.
  • buttguide: great leg and booty workouts! :D
  • womenshealthaus: quotes, fitness and posts that will make you giggle.
  • 6packguide: new ab exercises to strengthen you.
  • gym_videos; loads of videos with new exercises for you to try!

For cute dogs:

  • barkleythepom: A hilarious pomeranian puppy that gets dressed up and goes on adventures.
  • themightyrufus: an english bulldog that belongs to my friend. He isn’t cute at all but he will make you laugh!
  • spartacuspup: an adorable puppy family.

For extraordinary and inspiring people:

  • laurasykora: a yogi, but even if you’re not into yoga, follow her. She posts the most gorgeous photos, especially when her kids get in them!
  • lyzabethlopez: a beautiful woman who inspires hundreds of thousands of people.
  • devinbrugman: a girl who is always in a bikini and always on vacation somewhere amazing.
  • ashaburnley: a very positive female role model who is always thankful and happy.
  • melissaambrosini: an amazing female blogger who radiates self-love and encourages others to do the same.
  • the_be_life: a girl whose heart just bursts with positivity and happiness, she posts amazing videos.

Quote accounts

  • motivation__daily
  • lovequotes578
  • achievetheimpossible
  • heysoul__
  • thinkdifferents
  • lifequotes1235
  • instapositivity
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You can also find me on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/funiswhatyoumakeit

And on Instagram: @kkkirstin

 

Sending lots of love and positive vibes to you all,

Kirstin xx

Small Changes With Big Results

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Many of us spend so much time unhappy when there are small changes we can make to change this unhappiness. I have put together a list of 8 things all of us should immediately STOP doing below. Most of these things I have stopped in my life and I can definitely see results. I encourage you to find the strength to stop doing these things too.

  1. Stop drinking a ridiculous amount every weekend – you and your close circle of friends may think partying every weekend is super cool but wasting so much of your money and time definitely is not cool.
  2. Stop pretending exercise isn’t important – don’t keep saying you will get on track with your fitness in a few years because you can do it today, you can do it right now. Physical activity is so important and it will better so many aspects of your life, so go out and get moving!
  3. Stop putting others down – you’re not in high school anymore so judging other people for how they look, what they’re wearing, what they believe in etc. is not cool.
  4. Stop putting yourself down – negative self talk whether you are alone or in front of others will not add any happiness to your life. Learn how to block those thoughts out. Think and speak more positively about yourself.
  5. Stop opting for cheaper and unhealthier food options – You need to nourish and cherish your body and not fill it with unhealthy and low nutrient food. Love your body and your body will love you back.
  6. Stop comparing yourself to other people – in case you haven’t realized it yet, wishing you were someone else won’t actually make you become that person. Just focus on your own life and what you can do to improve upon yourself.
  7. Stop being involved with people who don’t care about you – if you feel like someone don’t give a shit about you, stop giving them your time and energy. It can be put to much better use.
  8. Stop putting things off – whether it’s studying, that GP or dental check up, or even calling your parents… go and do it!

Now that you know what you need to stop doing, here are 8 things you need to start doing. All of these things will add happiness to your life.

  1. Start giving compliments
  2. Start lending a hand, even when people don’t ask
  3. Start calling your parents more
  4. Start setting goals and planning for your future
  5. Start making time for your closest friends
  6. Start believing in yourself
  7. Start saving money
  8. Start loving yourself

The last one I believe is the most important thing I have written in this entire post! Once you have found a place of self-love, your life will forever be changed. All of the decisions you make will come from a loving place and you will be able to find happiness much, much easier.

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So go on, love yourself and change your life!

Lots and lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Wish Others Well

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Sometimes when you’re down or stuck it’s hard to see people around you succeeding and finding happiness. Often we envy this or feel jealous. Sometimes we try to sabotage it as we feel If I’m not happy, no one else should be…

You will find that by wishing unhappiness on others, failures and for doors to close on them, you won’t become any happier. There’s no little fairy that will magically transfer their happiness onto you.

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I see people around me that do this all the time and I know it’s a common issue in many people’s lives, so here are my suggestions for those of you that do this:

  • When someone tells you some good news, ask them more about it, congratulate them and tell them how happy you are for them (regardless of whether you are or not). Overtime you can trick your mind into actually becoming happy for them. And seeing people light up and get excited when they speak of their happiness is such a beautiful thing.
  • If while someone is telling you about their success, you immediately have thoughts in your head like ‘I don’t care about you or your success, my life is not going well, this isn’t fair,’ try to shut the thoughts out immediately, just focus on what the person is saying and try to smile and block out those negative thoughts.
  • Let those who are doing well inspire you. If you’re looking for a way to bring more joy into your life, learn what it is that they are doing and perhaps you can apply some of those principals to your own life.
  • If you find yourself continually feeling negative towards others good news, ask yourself ‘Why am I feeling like this?‘ and ‘What can I do to change this feeling?‘ You will find that by sorting your own life out, rather than continuously putting things off, you will become a happier person and accepting others happiness will come easier.

These are just a few of my suggestions and I hope they help! The ability to be happy for others and wish them well is a great life skill to have. Life is too short to be full of jealousy. If you are constantly comparing yourself to others and competing with them to find happiness, you’ll find those around you will find happiness, but you won’t.

I have reached the stage when I hear about other people’s happiness, success and good news I become happy for them and in turn, that increases the happiness within me. I hope all of you can find this beautiful place too!

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Have an amazing, blissful and gorgeous weekend!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Be present

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When life becomes stressful and difficult often we zone out of reality. We just do what needs to be done, with our minds in another place. Sometimes it can go on for days or weeks before we snap out of it and realise the joyless days we have been living.

I personally have noticed that being present is tied closely to my happiness. When I am present, I appreciate the moment, I smile a lot more, complain a lot less and am glad to be alive. If I have been absent in my life for a few days I feel lazy, tired, grumpy and just over everything.

So why don’t we all just stop being absent and start being present everyday?

Because it’s hard. Being present is something that needs to be practiced every day before it becomes a habit. I try to be present in my own life every single day but when I become really busy, I forget to do (or don’t make time for) the things that make me present and happy.

Now that a the Easter long weekend is upon us, there is so much time for all of us to remind ourselves of what we need to do to stay present in our own lives. Exercise, meditation, getting fresh air and eating healthy foods all help, so you’ve just go to find what works for you.

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My absolute favourite thing is visiting the beach. Walking on the sand, sun baking and swimming in the salty water helps me to feel alive and once I’ve done that, I find my days are easier to manage and I am so much more present.

Have a beautiful long weekend and I hope that you find plenty of time to be present this weekend, next week, and every other week that follows.

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

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Reflections of 2013

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One entire year has nearly gone by and I think it is important for each and every person to look back on their year and ask themselves the following questions:

  • What amazing things did I do this year?
  • What should I of done more of?
  • What should I of done less of?
  • What moments make me proud?

I am sure all of you wonderful people have done some really great things and it’s important to congratulate yourself on all that you achieved.

If you made a New Years’ Resolution at the start of the year, I want you to think back on it. Did you achieve it? If not, why not?

It’s important to recognise what worked and what didn’t work in 2013 so that you can move forward with your life in 2014. In a few days, I will publish a post about how to make a New Year’s Goal for next year so that it is definitely achievable for you!

For the last few years my “New Year’s Resolution” has been the exact same but only this year I feel like I have actually achieved it! It was “to be happy” or “to find happiness”. I have spent a lot of years unhappy with myself and my life, however this year I feel like I have made peace with my past, I have achieved so many wonderful things and I have found who I am. And I can say that I am happy!

I have to come up with a new goal for 2014, stay tuned to find out what it is!

At the start of this year I created this vision board for 2013:

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After looking at it, I feel I did get what I wanted to out of 2013. I think the two things that stand out to me that I didn’t achieve this year were to save money and party less. These are two things I will definitely put more effort into next year!

Although I didn’t do a few things, I feel proud of my efforts in 2013 and feel like I am in a really great place in my life, I hope you feel likewise!

Bring on 2014!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Don’t let life overwhelm you

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Every day we are faced with issues and moments that seem scary, annoying or stressful and we easily become overwhelmed by the entire situation.

I am usually a fairly happy and relaxed person but if something or someone gets to me, I do become overwhelmed very quickly. I never really noticed it before but over the past few weeks it has become so obvious to me. I realised that like any emotion, this can be changed if I stop myself before I reach a point of complete frustration/anger/annoyance.

It’s hard to realise that you are becoming annoyed and not something many of us do! But if you know your signs and symptoms and can recognise them starting to display themselves, then you can actually take control of the situation. For me, the most obvious one is that I start to become very hot and if the weather is already warm, I will start to sweat. I also think of a thousand things at once and my whole body tenses up.

When I start to notice any of these signs, I find the most helpful thing is to tell myself one of the following things:

  • Do not get overwhelmed by this situation
  • This situation should not be so overwhelming
  • Just relax
  • Stop what you are doing and just breathe

Once I have acknowledged that I am becoming overwhelmed, I find it rather easy to take control and to just step back for a moment, breathe and relax.

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Life can try its hardest to stress you out, annoy you and bring you down but you just have to be strong and say: No, life, you are not going to overwhelm me!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Forgive yourself

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A friend of mine recently ended her relationship with a long-term boyfriend on grounds that were not ideal (are they ever?). She has been feeling so guilty and thinks that she will never feel okay again. Her guiltiness inspired this post.

All of us go through situations and times that make us feel guilty, regretful and hateful of ourselves. At the time when we are experiencing them we feel as though these feelings will never go away. But they will. I promise you.

It could take weeks, months, perhaps even years, but it won’t take as long if you learn to do one of the most important things in life: to forgive yourself. Self-forgiveness and acceptance of what you did is such a valuable skill. It comes in handy as we move through life because we make mistakes and bad decisions every day! However if we stopped every time we made one of these bad choices and wallowed in regret, remorse and self-hate, we would never move through life.

Maybe the reason why you feel guilty is that you hurt others, and they won’t forgive you easily. But one day, they will feel okay too. You need to know that the most important person to receive forgiveness from is yourself. Because once you forgive yourself, you can move forward onto new and better things rather than being stuck in the past.

After a significant relationship of mine ending because of me (I will write a post about it one day perhaps!) I spent a few months just crying every day and not until one year afterwards was I able to forgive myself. I felt as though I was weighed by down by a huge bag of regret and that self-hate just seeped out of every pore in my body. There were days where I wouldn’t leave the house and one’s where I would leave only to break down somewhere public. But once I found out how to forgive myself, I was able to move forward and have not looked back since.

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Here are my tips to help with self-forgiveness:

  • When you think about what you did, accept that it happened and do not dwell on it.
  • When feelings of guilt begin to overwhelm you, try to think of other things or busy yourself.
  • Talk to people about it, saying things out loud can help with closure.
  • Hang around other positive people.
  • Don’t constantly remind yourself of what you did (by looking at photos for example)
  • Distance yourself from the person or thing that you hurt (keeping in contact or staying in close proximity to something that causes you pain will not help)
  • Know that every one of us makes mistakes – it is normal!
  • Accept that what’s mean to be, will be. And what’s not meant to be, won’t be.
  • Time heals. If you’re not okay today, maybe you will be tomorrow.

Self-forgiveness is something we must practice every day. For me, it comes naturally now. If I do something wrong, I can get past it very easily, and I am so grateful for it. But I wasn’t always like that.

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Lots of love,

Kirstin xx