As young adults (yeah, we’re grown ups now!) we constantly feel that if we are not 100% sure what we want to do with our lives, that we are less successful as a person. We feel we are far behind, lost and that we’re never going to get to where we want to be because we don’t even know where that is.
When I speak to my friends, we all seem to be in this same place. We are determined and motivated people but discouraged by the fact that we don’t really know where we are going. Unsure of our “dream career,” what we are doing after we have graduated, or even which job to go to next, each time we are asked about these things we simply say “I’m not really sure.” These four words eat at us and make us question what we want in life, who we are and if we will ever truly find our life purpose.
This is such a negative way to think, we all need to realise that not knowing where we are going is not such a bad thing!
People who are unsure of where they are heading are often far more open to opportunities that arise. They are the type of people who seize the moment. They tend to be happier people and more sure of themselves because they are finding what their purpose is by figuring out what their purpose definitely is not.
I think the one thing that helps me get through the day and helps me know that everything I’m doing isn’t for nothing, is having a strong sense of my life goal. To inspire others. At different stages of my life there was additional words added to this goal, such as specific ways I was to do this, but I decided to shorten it as it felt more right for me.
When opportunities come up I ask myself whether this opportunity is somewhat achieving my life goal, and if it is, I will seize it, and if not, I may let it pass. Although I don’t particularly know what career I will end up in, I know that I will end up doing something that inspires others and this is such a beautiful thought!
If you don’t have a life goal, I strongly encourage you to spend some time thinking about it. Think about the thing or things that make you burst with happiness and you’ll be on your way to discovering what that is. I know it is hard to figure it out so take your time.
So many people do not know where they are going, far more people than you would realise!
You are not alone by any means. Plus you’re still young and you have so much life ahead of you. Have faith that it will be amazing, meaningful and make you oh, so happy!
I decided to finish this post off with a piece of text. When I finished high school, our principal read a Dr Seuss book to us. I have included the full text from “Oh the Places You’ll Go” below. If you haven’t read it in a while, I strongly encourage you to take a few minutes to read it. I promise it will be worth your while! Particularly if you are feeling lost and unsure of yourself and your life, give it a read!
Today is your day.
You’re off to Great Places!
You’re off and away!
You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes
You can steer yourself
any direction you choose.
You’re on your own. And you know what you know.
And YOU are the guy who’ll decide where to go.
You’ll look up and down streets. Look ’em over with care.
About some you will say, “I don’t choose to go there.”
With your head full of brains and your shoes full of feet,
you’re too smart to go down any not-so-good street.
And you may not find any
you’ll want to go down.
In that case, of course,
you’ll head straight out of town.
It’s opener there
in the wide open air.
Out there things can happen
and frequently do
to people as brainy
and footsy as you.
And when things start to happen,
don’t worry. Don’t stew.
Just go right along.
You’ll start happening too.
THE PLACES YOU’LL GO!
You’ll be on your way up!
You’ll be seeing great sights!
You’ll join the high fliers
who soar to high heights.
You won’t lag behind, because you’ll have the speed.
You’ll pass the whole gang and you’ll soon take the lead.
Wherever you fly, you’ll be the best of the best.
Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.
Except when you don’t
Because, sometimes, you won’t.
I’m sorry to say so
but, sadly, it’s true
can happen to you.
You can get all hung up
in a prickle-ly perch.
And your gang will fly on.
You’ll be left in a Lurch.
You’ll come down from the Lurch
with an unpleasant bump.
And the chances are, then,
that you’ll be in a Slump.
And when you’re in a Slump,
you’re not in for much fun.
is not easily done.
You will come to a place where the streets are not marked.
Some windows are lighted. But mostly they’re darked.
A place you could sprain both your elbow and chin!
Do you dare to stay out? Do you dare to go in?
How much can you lose? How much can you win?
And IF you go in, should you turn left or right…
or right-and-three-quarters? Or, maybe, not quite?
Or go around back and sneak in from behind?
Simple it’s not, I’m afraid you will find,
for a mind-maker-upper to make up his mind.
You can get so confused
that you’ll start in to race
down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace
and grind on for miles across weirdish wild space,
headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.
The Waiting Place…
…for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go
or a bus to come, or a plane to go
or the mail to come, or the rain to go
or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow
or waiting around for a Yes or a No
or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.
Waiting for the fish to bite
or waiting for wind to fly a kite
or waiting around for Friday night
or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake
or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants
or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
Everyone is just waiting.
That’s not for you!
Somehow you’ll escape
all that waiting and staying.
You’ll find the bright places
where Boom Bands are playing.
With banner flip-flapping,
once more you’ll ride high!
Ready for anything under the sky.
Ready because you’re that kind of a guy!
Oh, the places you’ll go! There is fun to be done!
There are points to be scored. there are games to be won.
And the magical things you can do with that ball
will make you the winning-est winner of all.
Fame! You’ll be famous as famous can be,
with the whole wide world watching you win on TV.
Except when they don’t.
Because, sometimes, they won’t.
I’m afraid that some times
you’ll play lonely games too.
Games you can’t win
’cause you’ll play against you.
Whether you like it or not,
Alone will be something
you’ll be quite a lot.
And when you’re alone, there’s a very good chance
you’ll meet things that scare you right out of your pants.
There are some, down the road between hither and yon,
that can scare you so much you won’t want to go on.
But on you will go
though the weather be foul
On you will go
though your enemies prowl
On you will go
though the Hakken-Kraks howl
Onward up many
a frightening creek,
though your arms may get sore
and your sneakers may leak.
On and on you will hike
and I know you’ll hike far
and face up to your problems
whatever they are.
You’ll get mixed up, of course,
as you already know.
You’ll get mixed up
with many strange birds as you go.
So be sure when you step.
Step with care and great tact
and remember that Life’s
a Great Balancing Act.
Just never forget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.
And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and 3/4 percent guaranteed.)
KID, YOU’LL MOVE MOUNTAINS!
be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray
or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O’Shea,
you’re off to Great Places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So…get on your way!
I hope this post has made you feel better about not knowing what career you will do. There are so many of us in this situation, just try to figure our your life goal so you have a bit more purpose and have faith that your life is going to be amazing!
I hope I have inspired you to keep on going, even if you don’t know your destination, cause going is the best way to be!
Lots of love,