Allow Yourself to GROW

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I read somewhere that 50% of the people we have in our lives don’t want to see us do well. They don’t want to hear about your dreams, and if you still choose to tell them, they will tell you that you can’t do it, and secretly wish failure upon you. Roosh summarizes these people perfectly below:

They want you to fail because your success is their failure. It reminds them of their laziness, their poor work ethic. Their subtle jabs and withholding of encouragement are aimed to keep you in an inferior station. No one wants to see someone rise at faster speed than themselves.

There is no point in telling other people your goals. They will talk you out of it or give you bad advice. There is no point trying to convince others of your world view. They will plant seeds of doubts that prevent you from action and seeing the truth. The minute you go just slightly higher than you have been, they will try to sabotage you. They are the worrymongers, fearmongers, scaremongers, shamemongers, guilt-trippers, trolls, and haters. Ignore them. Feeding them brings you down to their level, which is exactly what they want.

Now as someone who is quite aware of those kind of people, I certainly don’t believe that 50% of the people in my life are like this at all. However I do know a few, and one in particular that definitely needs to be let go of.

I allow these people to remain in my life, even though I know they have served their purpose and it is time for me to move on. They remind me of the person I was, or the person I’m trying to move away from, and the familiarity I feel for them is probably what makes me keep them around.

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I’m challenging myself this weekend to say good bye to one of these people, to ask them not to contact me anymore. I need to do this for myself so that I can properly become the person I feel I am becoming. It will be hard, but if I don’t let go of this person, I feel my life and I will not grow.

I challenge all you amazing people this weekend to have a good think about if you have any of these kind of people in your life – ex lovers, friends, old colleagues, acquaintances etc. If you feel that a particular person does not help you grow or even inhibits you from growing, it’s time to cut the strings.

You may be comfortable where you are, surrounded by familiar people, but are these people wishing you well? Do they inspire you to set goals and achieve them, or do they try to hold you in the place you are in right now, not wanting you to grow because if you do, they are afraid they will lose you?

You need to do what’s best for yourself and surround yourself with the people who wish you well, who are happy for your successes, celebrate your victories and do not find joy in your failures. I’m sure you can look at the people in your life and know whether they help you grow or not.

So I encourage you to get up the strength to let go of the people that don’t wish you well, you’ll make room for the positive people in your life, and find it much easier to achieve your goals and dreams once you are surrounded by like minded people who want to see you climb mountains.

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Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

100 Happy Days

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A little while ago I wrote a post about making time for the things that make you happy (you can click here to read it!).

One of my closest friends is using the ‘100 Happy Days’ Challenge as perfect example of this!  Jazmin found the challenge has helped help her find what it is that makes her happy and it also helped her recognise something good about every day, no matter how tired or stressed she was.

If you want to check her challenge out, head on over to her Instagram: @jazmingabby

And make sure to read her beautiful post below!

Lots of love, Kirstin x

 

100 Happy Days

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Recently I became very stressed, I started a new job and moved and I felt like I was constantly working for months on end!

I started doing the ‘100 Happy Days’ challenge to try to focus on the little things through my day that make me happy.

Coming home from a long shift, staying late and feeling so physically and mentally exhausted (being an RN on a surgical ward!); I would normally just switch off and watch TV or have a nap.  I realised that I had no time for me that day, and switching off will just make the tiredness worse.

So, now when coming home I do something that makes me happy, something I love.

Another thing I realised was that I figured out what things actually make ME happy. Everyone is different, and the things that make me happy are creative and low-key, and that’s ok.

Most of the people I talk to my age say that they have fun by grabbing a huge group of friends and going drinking. Personally, I could not think of anything worse. I enjoy things like quilting, makeup artistry, reading, cooking and gardening. Socially, I like having small dinners with friends and hanging out shopping or watching a movie.

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Image’s from Jazmin’s Instagram: @jazmingabby

Accepting what I like and actually doing it and not feeling that I have to fit in what everyone else likes, is important. I know it’s clichéd, but my main point is BE YOURSELF, the only thing that will make you happy, truly happy within yourself is being who you are.

Never mind what people think, never worry about the judgement of others, because the people who mind don’t matter, and the people who matter don’t mind.

If you’d like to sign up to do the ‘100 Happy Days’ challenge you can here; http://100happydays.com/

Have a happy day Jaz xoxo

Even Grown Ups Are Unsure About Where They Are Going

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As young adults (yeah, we’re grown ups now!) we constantly feel that if we are not 100% sure what we want to do with our lives, that we are less successful as a person. We feel we are far behind, lost and that we’re never going to get to where we want to be because we don’t even know where that is.

When I speak to my friends, we all seem to be in this same place. We are determined and motivated people but discouraged by the fact that we don’t really know where we are going. Unsure of our “dream career,” what we are doing after we have graduated, or even which job to go to next, each time we are asked about these things we simply say “I’m not really sure.” These four words eat at us and make us question what we want in life, who we are and if we will ever truly find our life purpose.

This is such a negative way to think, we all need to realise that not knowing where we are going is not such a bad thing!

People who are unsure of where they are heading are often far more open to opportunities that arise. They are the type of people who seize the moment. They tend to be happier people and more sure of themselves because they are finding what their purpose is by figuring out what their purpose definitely is not.

I think the one thing that helps me get through the day and helps me know that everything I’m doing isn’t for nothing, is having a strong sense of my life goal. To inspire others. At different stages of my life there was additional words added to this goal, such as specific ways I was to do this, but I decided to shorten it as it felt more right for me.

When opportunities come up I ask myself whether this opportunity is somewhat achieving my life goal, and if it is, I will seize it, and if not, I may let it pass. Although I don’t particularly know what career I will end up in, I know that I will end up doing something that inspires others and this is such a beautiful thought!

If you don’t have a life goal, I strongly encourage you to spend some time thinking about it. Think about the thing or things that make you burst with happiness and you’ll be on your way to discovering what that is. I know it is hard to figure it out so take your time.

So many people do not know where they are going, far more people than you would realise!

You are not alone by any means. Plus you’re still young and you have so much life ahead of you. Have faith that it will be amazing, meaningful and make you oh, so happy!

I decided to finish this post off with a piece of text. When I finished high school, our principal read a Dr Seuss book to us. I have included the full text from “Oh the Places You’ll Go” below. If you haven’t read it in a while, I strongly encourage you to take a few minutes to read it. I promise it will be worth your while! Particularly if you are feeling lost and unsure of yourself and your life, give it a read!

Congratulations!
Today is your day.
You’re off to Great Places!
You’re off and away!

You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes
You can steer yourself
any direction you choose.
You’re on your own.  And you know what you know.
And YOU are the guy who’ll decide where to go.

You’ll look up and down streets.  Look ‘em over with care.
About some you will say, “I don’t choose to go there.”
With your head full of brains and your shoes full of feet,
you’re too smart to go down any not-so-good street.

And you may not find any
you’ll want to go down.
In that case, of course,
you’ll head straight out of town.

It’s opener there
in the wide open air.

Out there things can happen
and frequently do
to people as brainy
and footsy as you.

And when things start to happen,
don’t worry.  Don’t stew.
Just go right along.
You’ll start happening too.

OH!
THE PLACES YOU’LL GO!

You’ll be on your way up!
You’ll be seeing great sights!
You’ll join the high fliers
who soar to high heights.

You won’t lag behind, because you’ll have the speed.
You’ll pass the whole gang and you’ll soon take the lead.
Wherever you fly, you’ll be the best of the best.
Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.

Except when you don’t
Because, sometimes, you won’t.

I’m sorry to say so
but, sadly, it’s true
and Hang-ups
can happen to you.

You can get all hung up
in a prickle-ly perch.
And your gang will fly on.
You’ll be left in a Lurch.

You’ll come down from the Lurch
with an unpleasant bump.
And the chances are, then,
that you’ll be in a Slump.

And when you’re in a Slump,
you’re not in for much fun.
Un-slumping yourself
is not easily done.

You will come to a place where the streets are not marked.
Some windows are lighted.  But mostly they’re darked.
A place you could sprain both your elbow and chin!
Do you dare to stay out?  Do you dare to go in?
How much can you lose? How much can you win?

And IF you go in, should you turn left or right…
or right-and-three-quarters? Or, maybe, not quite?
Or go around back and sneak in from behind?
Simple it’s not, I’m afraid you will find,
for a mind-maker-upper to make up his mind.

You can get so confused
that you’ll start in to race
down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace
and grind on for miles across weirdish wild space,
headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.
The Waiting Place…

…for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go
or a bus to come, or a plane to go
or the mail to come, or the rain to go
or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow
or waiting around for a Yes or a No
or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.

Waiting for the fish to bite
or waiting for wind to fly a kite
or waiting around for Friday night
or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake
or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants
or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
Everyone is just waiting.

NO!
That’s not for you!

Somehow you’ll escape
all that waiting and staying.
You’ll find the bright places
where Boom Bands are playing.

With banner flip-flapping,
once more you’ll ride high!
Ready for anything under the sky.
Ready because you’re that kind of a guy!

Oh, the places you’ll go! There is fun to be done!
There are points to be scored.  there are games to be won.
And the magical things you can do with that ball
will make you the winning-est winner of all.
Fame!  You’ll be famous as famous can be,
with the whole wide world watching you win on TV.

Except when they don’t.
Because, sometimes, they won’t.

I’m afraid that some times
you’ll play lonely games too.
Games you can’t win
’cause you’ll play against you.

All Alone!
Whether you like it or not,
Alone will be something
you’ll be quite a lot.

And when you’re alone, there’s a very good chance
you’ll meet things that scare you right out of your pants.
There are some, down the road between hither and yon,
that can scare you so much you won’t want to go on.

But on you will go
though the weather be foul
On you will go
though your enemies prowl
On you will go
though the Hakken-Kraks howl
Onward up many
a frightening creek,
though your arms may get sore
and your sneakers may leak.

On and on you will hike
and I know you’ll hike far
and face up to your problems
whatever they are.

You’ll get mixed up, of course,
as you already know.
You’ll get mixed up
with many strange birds as you go.
So be sure when you step.
Step with care and great tact
and remember that Life’s
a Great Balancing Act.
Just never forget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.

And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and 3/4 percent guaranteed.)

KID, YOU’LL MOVE MOUNTAINS!

So…
be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray
or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O’Shea,
you’re off to Great Places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So…get on your way!

I hope this post has made you feel better about not knowing what career you will do. There are so many of us in this situation, just try to figure our your life goal so you have a bit more purpose and have faith that your life is going to be amazing!

I hope I have inspired you to keep on going, even if you don’t know your destination, cause going is the best way to be!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Make your social media more positive!

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It’s no lie that most of us spend far too much time on social media than we’d like to admit!

Rather than telling you to just spend less time on Facebook, Instagram and whatever else you use (I admit, I couldn’t do it easily either!), I’m going to tell you how to use these hours you “waste” in a more productive and inspiring way.

We personalize our bedrooms, knowing that we spend a lot of time there, so why not personalize our social media channels too!

Positivity on Facebook…

  • Unfollow negative people: there are some people on Facebook constantly complaining about things and each time you scroll past one of their posts you probably think “nobody cares”, their mood then affects you, even if only for a second. To avoid this simply go onto their profile and there will be a little box saying “Following”, press that button and you have unfollowed them. Now their negativity will no longer appear in your news feed. Do this with as many people as you want!
  • Like positive pages: if you’re like me and love quotes, there are some great quote pages on Facebook, go and like a bunch and you will soon see your news feed become more positive! My all time favourite one is Positive Outlooks.
  • Don’t try to start social media fights: there are such a waste of time, if you don’t like what someone has to say, unfollow or unfriend them. If it is directed at you, block them. Just because they are seeking attention in a negative way it does not mean you have to become involved.
  • Block creepy people: if there are people that continuously annoy you on Facebook, block them. Guys who are always trying to talk to you, just seeing what you’re up to etc. These people put you in an annoyed and frustrated mood, so do yourself a favour, stop letting them put you in these moods and stop them from being able to contact you.
  • Post positive things: generally if you only put up positive things, you won’t receive negative responses. You may even encourage your close friends to become more positive on social media too!

Positivity on Instagram…

  • Don’t follow people who you don’t actually care about: if you always see someone’s posts, you never like them and just scroll past them, simply unfollow them. That two seconds you use to scroll past them, could of been used to look at something inspiring!
  • Unfollow negative people: same as on Facebook, if they post negative things or things you don’t like, get rid of them. Some of my pet hates are people doing drugs, constantly complaining they’re fat or whining about not having a boyfriend.
  • Follow inspiring people: people that you look up to whether they are celebrities, fitness models or even people you know. If they are doing something great with their lives, follow them. Hopefully they will inspire you to go out and do great things with your life!
  • Follow educational accounts: I love to follow fitness accounts and learn about new exercises, there’s so many accounts out there for every single thing you could imagine, so whatever it is that you want to learn more about, search for it.
  • Follow pages that make you smile: for me these are puppy pages! Travel accounts are great too, and quote pages!

I have included a list below of my all time favourite Instagram accounts with a description of each, so if you’re looking to add some vibrancy, positivity and a bit of cuteness to your Instagram feed, give some of these a follow!

Random pages (but definitely two of my absolute favourite accounts!)

  • mermaidsofhawaii: a company in Hawaii that turns people into mermaids for photoshoots.
  • _bahamasgirl_: an underwater model in the Bahamas who swims with all kinds of sea creatures.

For health and fitness:

  • lovehealthfitness: A gorgeous girl that posts clean and super pretty photos of food!
  • motivationwall: quotes, health and fitness motivation.
  • emilyskyefit: an Australia fitness model that promotes positive body image.
  • buttguide: great leg and booty workouts! :D
  • womenshealthaus: quotes, fitness and posts that will make you giggle.
  • 6packguide: new ab exercises to strengthen you.
  • gym_videos; loads of videos with new exercises for you to try!

For cute dogs:

  • barkleythepom: A hilarious pomeranian puppy that gets dressed up and goes on adventures.
  • themightyrufus: an english bulldog that belongs to my friend. He isn’t cute at all but he will make you laugh!
  • spartacuspup: an adorable puppy family.

For extraordinary and inspiring people:

  • laurasykora: a yogi, but even if you’re not into yoga, follow her. She posts the most gorgeous photos, especially when her kids get in them!
  • lyzabethlopez: a beautiful woman who inspires hundreds of thousands of people.
  • devinbrugman: a girl who is always in a bikini and always on vacation somewhere amazing.
  • ashaburnley: a very positive female role model who is always thankful and happy.
  • melissaambrosini: an amazing female blogger who radiates self-love and encourages others to do the same.
  • the_be_life: a girl whose heart just bursts with positivity and happiness, she posts amazing videos.

Quote accounts

  • motivation__daily
  • lovequotes578
  • achievetheimpossible
  • heysoul__
  • thinkdifferents
  • lifequotes1235
  • instapositivity
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And on Instagram: @kkkirstin

 

Sending lots of love and positive vibes to you all,

Kirstin xx

Small Changes With Big Results

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Many of us spend so much time unhappy when there are small changes we can make to change this unhappiness. I have put together a list of 8 things all of us should immediately STOP doing below. Most of these things I have stopped in my life and I can definitely see results. I encourage you to find the strength to stop doing these things too.

  1. Stop drinking a ridiculous amount every weekend – you and your close circle of friends may think partying every weekend is super cool but wasting so much of your money and time definitely is not cool.
  2. Stop pretending exercise isn’t important – don’t keep saying you will get on track with your fitness in a few years because you can do it today, you can do it right now. Physical activity is so important and it will better so many aspects of your life, so go out and get moving!
  3. Stop putting others down – you’re not in high school anymore so judging other people for how they look, what they’re wearing, what they believe in etc. is not cool.
  4. Stop putting yourself down – negative self talk whether you are alone or in front of others will not add any happiness to your life. Learn how to block those thoughts out. Think and speak more positively about yourself.
  5. Stop opting for cheaper and unhealthier food options – You need to nourish and cherish your body and not fill it with unhealthy and low nutrient food. Love your body and your body will love you back.
  6. Stop comparing yourself to other people – in case you haven’t realized it yet, wishing you were someone else won’t actually make you become that person. Just focus on your own life and what you can do to improve upon yourself.
  7. Stop being involved with people who don’t care about you – if you feel like someone don’t give a shit about you, stop giving them your time and energy. It can be put to much better use.
  8. Stop putting things off – whether it’s studying, that GP or dental check up, or even calling your parents… go and do it!

Now that you know what you need to stop doing, here are 8 things you need to start doing. All of these things will add happiness to your life.

  1. Start giving compliments
  2. Start lending a hand, even when people don’t ask
  3. Start calling your parents more
  4. Start setting goals and planning for your future
  5. Start making time for your closest friends
  6. Start believing in yourself
  7. Start saving money
  8. Start loving yourself

The last one I believe is the most important thing I have written in this entire post! Once you have found a place of self-love, your life will forever be changed. All of the decisions you make will come from a loving place and you will be able to find happiness much, much easier.

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So go on, love yourself and change your life!

Lots and lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Wish Others Well

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Sometimes when you’re down or stuck it’s hard to see people around you succeeding and finding happiness. Often we envy this or feel jealous. Sometimes we try to sabotage it as we feel If I’m not happy, no one else should be…

You will find that by wishing unhappiness on others, failures and for doors to close on them, you won’t become any happier. There’s no little fairy that will magically transfer their happiness onto you.

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I see people around me that do this all the time and I know it’s a common issue in many people’s lives, so here are my suggestions for those of you that do this:

  • When someone tells you some good news, ask them more about it, congratulate them and tell them how happy you are for them (regardless of whether you are or not). Overtime you can trick your mind into actually becoming happy for them. And seeing people light up and get excited when they speak of their happiness is such a beautiful thing.
  • If while someone is telling you about their success, you immediately have thoughts in your head like ‘I don’t care about you or your success, my life is not going well, this isn’t fair,’ try to shut the thoughts out immediately, just focus on what the person is saying and try to smile and block out those negative thoughts.
  • Let those who are doing well inspire you. If you’re looking for a way to bring more joy into your life, learn what it is that they are doing and perhaps you can apply some of those principals to your own life.
  • If you find yourself continually feeling negative towards others good news, ask yourself ‘Why am I feeling like this?‘ and ‘What can I do to change this feeling?‘ You will find that by sorting your own life out, rather than continuously putting things off, you will become a happier person and accepting others happiness will come easier.

These are just a few of my suggestions and I hope they help! The ability to be happy for others and wish them well is a great life skill to have. Life is too short to be full of jealousy. If you are constantly comparing yourself to others and competing with them to find happiness, you’ll find those around you will find happiness, but you won’t.

I have reached the stage when I hear about other people’s happiness, success and good news I become happy for them and in turn, that increases the happiness within me. I hope all of you can find this beautiful place too!

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Have an amazing, blissful and gorgeous weekend!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Get out of your rut

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We all get stuck in ruts, but once you realise you are in one, it’s often hard to get out.I recently got out of a rut I’d been in for two months, so I decided to share my story with you all on how I got out of it.

I left my job last week, I had wanted to for months because I felt I really needed to focus on my final year of studies. But I kept putting it off week after week, as I was too scared to make such a huge change.

However last Tuesday, I just became so stressed that I needed to do something about it. I called my best friend up and she had heard about my stress, tiredness, and wanting to quit for months now. She would always be there for me and offer some kind of advice but last Tuesday was different. She said:

“Okay, we need an attitude change. We need to change. Both of us. We are turning into different people. I don’t like who I am becoming. You aren’t happy in your job… You are going to get your positivity back, and so am I… I think we need to remember who we were last year… we were beautiful, caring, amazing young women ready to take on this world! That’s still us but I feel both of us are bogged down right now. We were focused on positivity, self love and acceptance. We need to get back to that. I really need this, and I need it before I forget to value myself.”

She had recently left her job too, I had become selfish, just focusing on my own problems, burdening her with my stresses and brought her down.

I had not seen the situation from this perspective and this made me so sad that I had dragged my amazing friend down with me. I was determined to make a change and the change had to happen that day because it’s sad for me to be down all the time but it was heartbreaking to think I brought my friend down with me.

My friend helped me out of this rut and I am so thankful to have such a beautiful soul in my life. If you’re in a rut here are my suggestions as to how you can get out of it:

  • Look at it from a different perspective, e.g. is your rut affecting more than just you?
  • Turn to a friend or family member and ask them to be brutally honest with you
  • Reflect on who you used to be, and if you’d rather be that person, figure out what it will take for you to get back there
  • Pinpoint the parts of your life that are bringing you down and work out how you can change them
  • And finally, have some courage! Making changes can be a scary thing, but you know what’s even scarier? Not making changes, staying in a rut and continuing to live life unhappily.

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It’s been almost a week since I left my job and I feel my life has completely turned around. I wake up smiling each day, have more time for myself and my studies and just feel I’m becoming a much happier person again. My friend is the same and we’re getting our happy back together.

We all need to be aware that our behaviors can affect those closest to us. If you’re down all the time, chances are you may be bringing a friend down with you. It’s not til you stop and see this, that you realise how much it hurts.

Get out of your rut, and make changes today.

Be positive and be there for your loved ones.

Be happy together.

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Believe that you deserve the best

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If you ever feel like you deserve to be treated better, you’re absolutely right, you sure do.

You deserve to feel that everyone in your life is helping you become a better person.

And know that anyone who does not help you to become a better person, does not deserve a second of your time.

You don’t need to be around negative, dream-crushing, soul-draining people.

Have the strength to walk away or let go of anyone that like this.

You deserve the best, and by removing these other people from your life, you make space for new people to come into your life.

One’s that will have a more positive effect on you.

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Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Be present

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When life becomes stressful and difficult often we zone out of reality. We just do what needs to be done, with our minds in another place. Sometimes it can go on for days or weeks before we snap out of it and realise the joyless days we have been living.

I personally have noticed that being present is tied closely to my happiness. When I am present, I appreciate the moment, I smile a lot more, complain a lot less and am glad to be alive. If I have been absent in my life for a few days I feel lazy, tired, grumpy and just over everything.

So why don’t we all just stop being absent and start being present everyday?

Because it’s hard. Being present is something that needs to be practiced every day before it becomes a habit. I try to be present in my own life every single day but when I become really busy, I forget to do (or don’t make time for) the things that make me present and happy.

Now that a the Easter long weekend is upon us, there is so much time for all of us to remind ourselves of what we need to do to stay present in our own lives. Exercise, meditation, getting fresh air and eating healthy foods all help, so you’ve just go to find what works for you.

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My absolute favourite thing is visiting the beach. Walking on the sand, sun baking and swimming in the salty water helps me to feel alive and once I’ve done that, I find my days are easier to manage and I am so much more present.

Have a beautiful long weekend and I hope that you find plenty of time to be present this weekend, next week, and every other week that follows.

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

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Know that everyone comes into your life for a reason

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We can make peace with all the relationships in our lives if we can accept this simple fact: that everyone comes into your life for a reason.

When relationships end or friends disappear, often we get so caught up in the emotions of it all that we forget to look at what we learned from them or how that relationship helped us grow as a person. I’m going to provide two semi-recent examples of my own life so hopefully you understand what I mean.

I dated an American guy last year for a little while and once it ended I was so caught up in the hurt he caused initially. But after a while, and especially recently, I have made peace with it and I know one amazingly great thing that came from that relationship!

He introduced me to Zac Brown Band. This American country group changed my life! I was never into country music but this music has a beach vibe to it and I just love it. So if the reason I met him was so that I would learn about that band, I think it’s a pretty great thing!

Recently I was dating a Fijian guy and after a while of trying and trying so much to make it work, I just gave up. However the time I spent with him was great and I was really proud of myself for dating a Fijian guy because I was so hurt by one years ago and never thought I would ever want to date a Fijian guy again.

I had so many hang ups and so many cultural things initially reminded me of my failed engagement (read from half-way down that post if you are interested). But eventually I could accept that he was Fijian and I accepted his culture.

No longer it reminded me of my ex-fiance or a really dark period of my life. Now that relationship is over I can look back on it and realise the reason he came into my life was to show me that I have moved on and no longer am affected by that relationship and break up.

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Sorry both my examples are guys but at this age, I have really amazing friends so I can;t complain about them! Plus in the past year or so, the things that have hurt me the most are guys, so it seemed fitting to write about them.

I encourage anyone who is still hurting from a past relationship (no matter what that relationship was) to look back on it and realise how you grew as a person and what you learned or gained from that person. Make peace with your past, so you don’t spend another minute upset over it.

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx