Celebrating 25 years together!

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This week’s post is dedicated to my parents.

Today, the 1st of October 2014, is their wedding anniversary!

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“Love is a partnership of two unique people who bring out the very best in each other, and who know that even though they are wonderful as individuals, they are even better together.” -Barbara Cage

While they may have got off to a rough start – with my mum hitting on my dad’s friend because my dad was a drunk mess in the corner of the pub – he may have been her second choice, but he was the best choice she would make in her life.

They have achieved so much as husband and wife – had three daughters and raised one son together, owned and sold many houses and businesses, traveled to amazing places, but above all they have remained together.

They have the kind of marriage that has made their kids want to get married and I believe that is one of the greatest gifts they could ever give. They allowed us to believe in love and to know that one day, we too will find it.

They taught us to dream big. That all situations should be approached with optimism and to give everything a shot – even if other’s think you’re mad because of it.

They encouraged us to chase our dreams – it didn’t matter what we wanted to do, they always supported us.

They showed us how to be compassionate towards others, to give back to the community and to help anyone who was less well off than we were.

Though it wasn’t always easy, actually most of those 25 years have been quite rough – they always knew one thing, that they were made for each other and that no matter what they faced in life, they had the other person by their side to help them get through it.

It makes me so proud to have parents that not only raised their children so well, but through it all,they loved each other endlessly!

Happy 25th wedding anniversary mum and dad – I wish you so much love, joy and happiness!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

My View on Relationships

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I always write posts about the thing that has been on my mind the most lately, and so today’s post is about love and relationships.

If you don’t know, I’ve been single for three years and have dated but never found myself in a relationship. Yes, some may say I have chosen the wrong guys to be around but for me, I have a strong intuitive feeling, and if something is not worth pursuing, then I wont pursue it.

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None of us should waste time on people that we don’t feel will add something to our lives.

I am very lucky that my parents have so much love between them, they have shown my siblings and I how great love can be. They inspired me to never settle for something less than that.

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After recently meeting someone very amazing, that I can see a great future with, I decided to share with you all the six things I believe are key to a successful relationship. They are inspired by my parents amazing relationship, plus my own life experience.

  • Your partner should challenge you. He/she should encourage you to become a better person and inspire to go for what you want. If you don’t know what you want, your partner should make you feel as though, with their love, you are able to discover just what it is.
  • You should be able to grow together. I believe we continuously grow in life, every single day, if we choose to. You should find someone that wants to continue growing and not just remain stuck in the same place. Not only should they seek growth in their own life, but also growth in the life you create together,
  • You should want your children to be like your partner. If you can look at your partner and think “He/she would make an amazing father/mother”, then to me, that’s love. You should love the qualities they have, the person they are and the person they are becoming.
  • You each should have your own projects. As much as creating a life together and being together is important, you both have different interests and need to pursue these projects individually in order to make the projects you pursue together successful.
  • Your partner should be the only person you want (and you should be the only person they want). Working on your relationship and doing what it takes to keep the other happy is so important. Even if you both get attention from other people, I once read a quote which I think sums this up nicely: “It doesn’t matter who wants me, I only want you”.
  • You should fall in love with them over and over again. A great partner is someone who can continue to do things to make you smile, even 20 years down the track. Your relationship should always be a priority, no matter how busy life gets.

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If you are yet to find great love, do what it is that you love, and you will find by focusing on yourself and bettering yourself, you will attract the right kind of people.

If you are currently on a love journey, enjoy it, put time and effort into it and it may just become one of the greatest love stories of all time.

And for those of you that have already found it, hold onto it, cherish it and preach it. Not enough people believe in great love these days, so remind everyone that it does exist.

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Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

 

Believe that you deserve the best

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If you ever feel like you deserve to be treated better, you’re absolutely right, you sure do.

You deserve to feel that everyone in your life is helping you become a better person.

And know that anyone who does not help you to become a better person, does not deserve a second of your time.

You don’t need to be around negative, dream-crushing, soul-draining people.

Have the strength to walk away or let go of anyone that like this.

You deserve the best, and by removing these other people from your life, you make space for new people to come into your life.

One’s that will have a more positive effect on you.

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Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Ambition and Relationships

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This post is inspired by the following two quotes:

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I have been in a number of relationships and have seen my friends in numerous relationships too and it’s funny how so many guys want a submissive girl who doesn’t know what she wants in life and will just follow him through life.

I am not a crazy feminist or anything, but I am a firm believer that a woman should do what she wants with her life and the man should support her. Of course the guy should have his own goals and dreams too!

If a guy ever thinks you are too ambitious, you should reconsider your relationship. Your man should encourage you to reach for the stars and for you to work towards every one of your dreams. If he doesn’t do this, then he is not worth your time.

Two people cannot be together if they are traveling in opposite directions.

One thing I strongly believe is that you have to know what you want in life, BEFORE entering a serious relationship. However if you are already in one, you really have to look seriously at the relationship and decide whether it strengthens or weakens you.

I see so many of my friends in their twenties in serious relationships. Many of them are held back by their man. Some do have encouraging guys, which is great to see! But it hurts me to think that my friends may not become who they wanted to be just because they feel stuck in their relationship. You are never, ever stuck.

If you are single and looking to be in a relationship, take the following advice:

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Once you know who you are and feel as though you are in a good place in life, the right person will come along. !

Remain ambitious, driven and persistent – it may deter the wrong guys but the right guy will love you for it! Remember:

Strong women only intimidate weak men.

Once you love yourself and love your life, everything will fall into place.

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx