Allow Yourself to GROW

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I read somewhere that 50% of the people we have in our lives don’t want to see us do well. They don’t want to hear about your dreams, and if you still choose to tell them, they will tell you that you can’t do it, and secretly wish failure upon you. Roosh summarizes these people perfectly below:

They want you to fail because your success is their failure. It reminds them of their laziness, their poor work ethic. Their subtle jabs and withholding of encouragement are aimed to keep you in an inferior station. No one wants to see someone rise at faster speed than themselves.

There is no point in telling other people your goals. They will talk you out of it or give you bad advice. There is no point trying to convince others of your world view. They will plant seeds of doubts that prevent you from action and seeing the truth. The minute you go just slightly higher than you have been, they will try to sabotage you. They are the worrymongers, fearmongers, scaremongers, shamemongers, guilt-trippers, trolls, and haters. Ignore them. Feeding them brings you down to their level, which is exactly what they want.

Now as someone who is quite aware of those kind of people, I certainly don’t believe that 50% of the people in my life are like this at all. However I do know a few, and one in particular that definitely needs to be let go of.

I allow these people to remain in my life, even though I know they have served their purpose and it is time for me to move on. They remind me of the person I was, or the person I’m trying to move away from, and the familiarity I feel for them is probably what makes me keep them around.

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I’m challenging myself this weekend to say good bye to one of these people, to ask them not to contact me anymore. I need to do this for myself so that I can properly become the person I feel I am becoming. It will be hard, but if I don’t let go of this person, I feel my life and I will not grow.

I challenge all you amazing people this weekend to have a good think about if you have any of these kind of people in your life – ex lovers, friends, old colleagues, acquaintances etc. If you feel that a particular person does not help you grow or even inhibits you from growing, it’s time to cut the strings.

You may be comfortable where you are, surrounded by familiar people, but are these people wishing you well? Do they inspire you to set goals and achieve them, or do they try to hold you in the place you are in right now, not wanting you to grow because if you do, they are afraid they will lose you?

You need to do what’s best for yourself and surround yourself with the people who wish you well, who are happy for your successes, celebrate your victories and do not find joy in your failures. I’m sure you can look at the people in your life and know whether they help you grow or not.

So I encourage you to get up the strength to let go of the people that don’t wish you well, you’ll make room for the positive people in your life, and find it much easier to achieve your goals and dreams once you are surrounded by like minded people who want to see you climb mountains.

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Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

100 Happy Days

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A little while ago I wrote a post about making time for the things that make you happy (you can click here to read it!).

One of my closest friends is using the ‘100 Happy Days’ Challenge as perfect example of this!  Jazmin found the challenge has helped help her find what it is that makes her happy and it also helped her recognise something good about every day, no matter how tired or stressed she was.

If you want to check her challenge out, head on over to her Instagram: @jazmingabby

And make sure to read her beautiful post below!

Lots of love, Kirstin x

 

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Recently I became very stressed, I started a new job and moved and I felt like I was constantly working for months on end!

I started doing the ‘100 Happy Days’ challenge to try to focus on the little things through my day that make me happy.

Coming home from a long shift, staying late and feeling so physically and mentally exhausted (being an RN on a surgical ward!); I would normally just switch off and watch TV or have a nap.  I realised that I had no time for me that day, and switching off will just make the tiredness worse.

So, now when coming home I do something that makes me happy, something I love.

Another thing I realised was that I figured out what things actually make ME happy. Everyone is different, and the things that make me happy are creative and low-key, and that’s ok.

Most of the people I talk to my age say that they have fun by grabbing a huge group of friends and going drinking. Personally, I could not think of anything worse. I enjoy things like quilting, makeup artistry, reading, cooking and gardening. Socially, I like having small dinners with friends and hanging out shopping or watching a movie.

Image's from Jazmin's Instagram: @jazmingabby

Image’s from Jazmin’s Instagram: @jazmingabby

Accepting what I like and actually doing it and not feeling that I have to fit in what everyone else likes, is important. I know it’s clichéd, but my main point is BE YOURSELF, the only thing that will make you happy, truly happy within yourself is being who you are.

Never mind what people think, never worry about the judgement of others, because the people who mind don’t matter, and the people who matter don’t mind.

If you’d like to sign up to do the ‘100 Happy Days’ challenge you can here; http://100happydays.com/

Have a happy day Jaz xoxo

New Year’s Goals

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I intentionally did not name this post “New Year’s Resolutions” because I feel so many of us have negativity associated with that word as year after year we make resolutions that we never follow through with.

With Christmas over for another year and only a few more days left of 2013 I think it is important to look back on your resolution for this year, what was it? Did you achieve it? And if you didn’t, why not?

Maybe it was next to impossible to achieve, maybe you became lazy or found excuses as to why you could not achieve it. So many people say all of these extravagant ideas and they are overwhelmed at what it takes to achieve them.

As you begin to think about your GOAL for 2014, I have one piece of advice: make sure it is realistic! For example, rather than saying “I want to be skinny”, say “I want to find the healthiest version of me”. Figure out what the main thing you want to do in 2014 and go from there.

My 2014 goal was not too difficult for me to figure out: to inspire myself and other people.

That is ultimately my life goal and I want to keep doing great things, helping others and working towards all of the things I aim to do and be in the future!

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Come up with a great goal for 2014 that is your mantra for the year, something you remember when you are struggling and something that you will feel proud to achieve.

Make 2014 the best year yet!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Practice Christmas Grattitude!

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This week when someone asked me “what do you want for Christmas?” I thought and thought about it, but couldn’t think of anything. I realised that right now, I have everything I want.

2013 has been the most wonderful year for me! My family have been so supportive and loving. My sister got engaged and my other sister went on exchange to Denmark. I submersed myself in University life making new friendships, and meeting people that I know I will be friends with for life. I got so much work experience, some paid too, and really good grades! Last week I found out I got an amazing job doing the Marketing/PR/Events for my favourite nightclub here at the Gold Coast (I didn’t think I had a chance at getting that job!).

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Christmas Happiness!

I have also completely made peace with who I am, externally and internally. I have found my passion and purpose. I just feel this amazing sense of happiness and love. No material item could bring me this much happiness.

Christmas is the time of year to look back on your year and to practice gratitude for all that has occurred and all that you have made happen! Each an everyone of us have things to be grateful for. Acknowledge what they are or who they are. Tell people how you feel about them, thank them, tell them that they inspire you or just tell someone how much you love them. Giving the gift of happiness is so important and what better time to give it than at Christmas!

Merry Christmas to you all, may it be filled with peace, love and happiness.

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Reflections of 2013

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One entire year has nearly gone by and I think it is important for each and every person to look back on their year and ask themselves the following questions:

  • What amazing things did I do this year?
  • What should I of done more of?
  • What should I of done less of?
  • What moments make me proud?

I am sure all of you wonderful people have done some really great things and it’s important to congratulate yourself on all that you achieved.

If you made a New Years’ Resolution at the start of the year, I want you to think back on it. Did you achieve it? If not, why not?

It’s important to recognise what worked and what didn’t work in 2013 so that you can move forward with your life in 2014. In a few days, I will publish a post about how to make a New Year’s Goal for next year so that it is definitely achievable for you!

For the last few years my “New Year’s Resolution” has been the exact same but only this year I feel like I have actually achieved it! It was “to be happy” or “to find happiness”. I have spent a lot of years unhappy with myself and my life, however this year I feel like I have made peace with my past, I have achieved so many wonderful things and I have found who I am. And I can say that I am happy!

I have to come up with a new goal for 2014, stay tuned to find out what it is!

At the start of this year I created this vision board for 2013:

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After looking at it, I feel I did get what I wanted to out of 2013. I think the two things that stand out to me that I didn’t achieve this year were to save money and party less. These are two things I will definitely put more effort into next year!

Although I didn’t do a few things, I feel proud of my efforts in 2013 and feel like I am in a really great place in my life, I hope you feel likewise!

Bring on 2014!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Draw How It Feels To Be Happy

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A lovely person that I met a while ago gave me the above book called “1001 Ways to Happiness”. One of my favourite things in it was this:

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A few months ago I spent one Saturday and one Sunday morning sitting at my desk thinking about what happiness felt like to me. It was hard to draw surprisingly, putting a feeling into colours, lines and images. However I in the end it was a really wonderful process and I felt it was accurate for me. It is now stuck on one of my bedroom walls and I look at it almost every day.

My drawing of how it feels to be happy

My drawing of how it feels to be happy

We feel happiness so many times through life, and recognising how it feels and what it looks like it not something we often do. But through recognition we can find many benefits. If you are struggling to find happiness now, or at any other stage in life, you can bring yourself back to your drawing and hopefully it will provide you with some peace and belief that you will feel happy again soon.

Also if you feel like your life is often lacking happiness, by undertaking this drawing, you may in fact notice that you know what happiness feels like and that you often do feel happy, without even realising it.

I found the exercise very meditative and calming as it it brings you back to focus on yourself. We spend so much time rushing from here to there, not really present in the moment or stopping to smile. Hopefully you will do this exercise and you find some serenity through the process.

If you struggle to put your feelings on paper try thinking about whether any of the following things make you happy:

  • People
  • Places
  • Colours
  • Memories
  • Movements
  • Images

And that’s just to name a few! Hopefully your creative and imaginative self is inspired to get drawing. And if you’re still struggling, just draw! Put pen to paper, go with the flow and draw what feels right.

Next time you have some spare time, grab some paper and markers and draw how it feels to be happy!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx