There’s nothing worse than someone not being real with you, and this has become more and more obvious to me lately.
I am working at a nightclub and initially I felt fragile, vulnerable and so timid! I was scared I was doing it wrong or that they wouldn’t like my ideas. But after a few weeks of working there I feel like I have become so much stronger and better because my boss just told it to me straight. If I screwed up, he would tell me to re do something and I needed to toughen up!
This post was mostly inspired by another situation that happened recently however..
Last year I went on a date with a guy as we were working for the same modelling agency and worked on a set together. Apart from occasional shifts with that job he did nothing else with his life but played video games. He had no motivation or ambition. After our date I never wanted to see him again and he wanted me to tell him why.
So I was straight with him. I told him I am goal driven, passionate and incredibly ambitious and that I needed someone also was. He was really angry at me, abused me a bit and blocked me off of everything. I wasn’t bothered at all.
However last night he unblocked me off Facebook and said the following thing:
“Hey I just wanted to say thank you… I remember when you said I had no ambition. I said you were wrong, but you actually weren’t. I was so lost at that point in my life. You saying that kind of snapped me out of it. It actually woke me up. I was so defensive, but you were right. I think I was just cut because I knew it was true, but didn’t want to face the facts. After I kind of accepted it I thought ‘well if she thinks it, it’s more than likely others think it. I gotta do something with my life.’So, I literally jumped into everything… Joined a band. Started job searching, everything haha. Now I’m so busy with work, band, making websites, and I’m even writing a book with a friend of mine. I hardly even knew you, but you were the one to say it straight. Why couldn’t anyone else do that? This is hard for me to admit. But eh, thats kind of a main reason I got back into contact with you.”
I was so tired when I got this message last night and it made me cry. I am so glad I could inspire someone I hardly even know, just by telling it to him straight.
So next time you have to tell someone something, make sure you tell it to them straight!
Lots of love,