New Year’s Goals

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I intentionally did not name this post “New Year’s Resolutions” because I feel so many of us have negativity associated with that word as year after year we make resolutions that we never follow through with.

With Christmas over for another year and only a few more days left of 2013 I think it is important to look back on your resolution for this year, what was it? Did you achieve it? And if you didn’t, why not?

Maybe it was next to impossible to achieve, maybe you became lazy or found excuses as to why you could not achieve it. So many people say all of these extravagant ideas and they are overwhelmed at what it takes to achieve them.

As you begin to think about your GOAL for 2014, I have one piece of advice: make sure it is realistic! For example, rather than saying “I want to be skinny”, say “I want to find the healthiest version of me”. Figure out what the main thing you want to do in 2014 and go from there.

My 2014 goal was not too difficult for me to figure out: to inspire myself and other people.

That is ultimately my life goal and I want to keep doing great things, helping others and working towards all of the things I aim to do and be in the future!

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Come up with a great goal for 2014 that is your mantra for the year, something you remember when you are struggling and something that you will feel proud to achieve.

Make 2014 the best year yet!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Practice Christmas Grattitude!

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This week when someone asked me “what do you want for Christmas?” I thought and thought about it, but couldn’t think of anything. I realised that right now, I have everything I want.

2013 has been the most wonderful year for me! My family have been so supportive and loving. My sister got engaged and my other sister went on exchange to Denmark. I submersed myself in University life making new friendships, and meeting people that I know I will be friends with for life. I got so much work experience, some paid too, and really good grades! Last week I found out I got an amazing job doing the Marketing/PR/Events for my favourite nightclub here at the Gold Coast (I didn’t think I had a chance at getting that job!).

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Christmas Happiness!

I have also completely made peace with who I am, externally and internally. I have found my passion and purpose. I just feel this amazing sense of happiness and love. No material item could bring me this much happiness.

Christmas is the time of year to look back on your year and to practice gratitude for all that has occurred and all that you have made happen! Each an everyone of us have things to be grateful for. Acknowledge what they are or who they are. Tell people how you feel about them, thank them, tell them that they inspire you or just tell someone how much you love them. Giving the gift of happiness is so important and what better time to give it than at Christmas!

Merry Christmas to you all, may it be filled with peace, love and happiness.

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Reflections of 2013

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One entire year has nearly gone by and I think it is important for each and every person to look back on their year and ask themselves the following questions:

  • What amazing things did I do this year?
  • What should I of done more of?
  • What should I of done less of?
  • What moments make me proud?

I am sure all of you wonderful people have done some really great things and it’s important to congratulate yourself on all that you achieved.

If you made a New Years’ Resolution at the start of the year, I want you to think back on it. Did you achieve it? If not, why not?

It’s important to recognise what worked and what didn’t work in 2013 so that you can move forward with your life in 2014. In a few days, I will publish a post about how to make a New Year’s Goal for next year so that it is definitely achievable for you!

For the last few years my “New Year’s Resolution” has been the exact same but only this year I feel like I have actually achieved it! It was “to be happy” or “to find happiness”. I have spent a lot of years unhappy with myself and my life, however this year I feel like I have made peace with my past, I have achieved so many wonderful things and I have found who I am. And I can say that I am happy!

I have to come up with a new goal for 2014, stay tuned to find out what it is!

At the start of this year I created this vision board for 2013:

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After looking at it, I feel I did get what I wanted to out of 2013. I think the two things that stand out to me that I didn’t achieve this year were to save money and party less. These are two things I will definitely put more effort into next year!

Although I didn’t do a few things, I feel proud of my efforts in 2013 and feel like I am in a really great place in my life, I hope you feel likewise!

Bring on 2014!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Don’t let life overwhelm you

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Every day we are faced with issues and moments that seem scary, annoying or stressful and we easily become overwhelmed by the entire situation.

I am usually a fairly happy and relaxed person but if something or someone gets to me, I do become overwhelmed very quickly. I never really noticed it before but over the past few weeks it has become so obvious to me. I realised that like any emotion, this can be changed if I stop myself before I reach a point of complete frustration/anger/annoyance.

It’s hard to realise that you are becoming annoyed and not something many of us do! But if you know your signs and symptoms and can recognise them starting to display themselves, then you can actually take control of the situation. For me, the most obvious one is that I start to become very hot and if the weather is already warm, I will start to sweat. I also think of a thousand things at once and my whole body tenses up.

When I start to notice any of these signs, I find the most helpful thing is to tell myself one of the following things:

  • Do not get overwhelmed by this situation
  • This situation should not be so overwhelming
  • Just relax
  • Stop what you are doing and just breathe

Once I have acknowledged that I am becoming overwhelmed, I find it rather easy to take control and to just step back for a moment, breathe and relax.

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Life can try its hardest to stress you out, annoy you and bring you down but you just have to be strong and say: No, life, you are not going to overwhelm me!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Ambition and Relationships

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This post is inspired by the following two quotes:

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I have been in a number of relationships and have seen my friends in numerous relationships too and it’s funny how so many guys want a submissive girl who doesn’t know what she wants in life and will just follow him through life.

I am not a crazy feminist or anything, but I am a firm believer that a woman should do what she wants with her life and the man should support her. Of course the guy should have his own goals and dreams too!

If a guy ever thinks you are too ambitious, you should reconsider your relationship. Your man should encourage you to reach for the stars and for you to work towards every one of your dreams. If he doesn’t do this, then he is not worth your time.

Two people cannot be together if they are traveling in opposite directions.

One thing I strongly believe is that you have to know what you want in life, BEFORE entering a serious relationship. However if you are already in one, you really have to look seriously at the relationship and decide whether it strengthens or weakens you.

I see so many of my friends in their twenties in serious relationships. Many of them are held back by their man. Some do have encouraging guys, which is great to see! But it hurts me to think that my friends may not become who they wanted to be just because they feel stuck in their relationship. You are never, ever stuck.

If you are single and looking to be in a relationship, take the following advice:

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Once you know who you are and feel as though you are in a good place in life, the right person will come along. !

Remain ambitious, driven and persistent – it may deter the wrong guys but the right guy will love you for it! Remember:

Strong women only intimidate weak men.

Once you love yourself and love your life, everything will fall into place.

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Spiritual Gifts

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Stuck for Christmas ideas for your loved ones? Don’t have much money to spend, but you still want to get them something special? Well, you should go spiritual!

In every city there are tonnes of spiritual shops! You know, those one’s you walk by and suddenly become hit with an overwhelming smell of incense?

Most of us never venture into them because we are afraid of the unknown and the uncertain.

I have recently discovered a spiritual shop near where I live, Crystique. You can see their website here: http://www.crystique.com.au/

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If you live on the Gold Coast in Australia, the shop is located in Southport at Australia Fair Shopping Center. The man working there is super friendly and more than happy to help if you have no idea what you are looking for! Crystals and stones adorn every wall and from the roof hangs dream catchers of every colour, size and style! I have been back there about five times now and did the majority of my Christmas shopping there too.

If you are after an extra special gift this holiday season, I highly recommend you to find a spiritual shop nearby you. They have things like:

  • Crystal and silver jewellery
  • New Age books
  • Tarot cards
  • Feng Shui items
  • Dream Catchers
  • Angels
  • Incense
  • Perfume
  • Sun Catchers
  • Music and Meditation CD’s
  • Physic readings

You may have preconceived ideas about spiritual gifts (like that they are only for hippies) but I think almost anyone could appreciate something in the store.

Go on, be brave, and step inside that little spiritual shop that’s been intriguing you for the past few months, I’m sure you will be pleasantly surprised with what you find!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Create a book of life accomplishments

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A particularly wonderful thing I made last year was this:

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I purchased a little notebook thinking I wanted to make a bucket list, not because I am thinking of dying soon, but because I wanted to write down all of the amazing things I hope to do in my life. Then, as I accomplish them, I can tick them off in my book. And one day, I will be able to flip through the pages of this book that I made as a young girl and realise what a great life I’ve had.

Some of the things written in the book won’t happen for many more years, but a lot of them I can work towards each and every day if I want to. This book has helped me stay motivated because whenever I find another thing I want to do, I write it in the book and find joy in knowing that one day I will actually do it!

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Currently I have 74 things listed in the book but it’s only one third full so I will write on all the pages eventually! My list contains things like children, owning my own business, publishing books I’m in the process of writing, travel plans and celebrities I want to see perform. There are some rather peculiar ones too, like spending one week in silence! I have already ticked off about five or so, and I can’t wait to tick off more!

Next time you’re at the shops, buy yourself a little notebook and when you have some spare time, start your own list. You probably won’t be able to think of many initially but you can always come back to it and add in more!

If you know what it is that you want to do with your life, you have a greater chance of actually doing it!

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Go on, start dreaming of all the things you want to do and will do!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx

Sophie

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The gorgeous Sophie!!

The gorgeous Sophie!!

I was so blessed to meet one of the most beautiful people last year! I don’t actually remember how our paths crossed, but I am so glad they did! You know how sometimes you meet people and you just feel like you instantly get each other? That’s how I felt about her!

Quickly I discovered she had a blog: www.timetobefabulous.com and a Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Time-To-Be-Fabulous/168271663297562

Show her some love and like her Facebook page if you want some lovely things to appear in your news feed. She isn’t currently posting on her blog, however she has some really lovely things on there which you should check out and if you follow her, you’ll be the first to know when she does start posting again!

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She has such a magical way with words and says the loveliest things! I remember when I first read her blog, I think I read about 10 posts without even stopping to do anything! She is captivating and oh, so real! She tells it how it is and all of her posts are honest, heartfelt and sometimes even raw.

She is a university student like me with big dreams and a wonderful imagination! We both have extravagant plans for the future and I hope we will work together on some projects!

She has admitted to me that she has been in a little bit of a rut lately and unable to write when it used to come so naturally to her. She inspired me to start this blog so I hope to inspire her to get hers back up and running so that she can keep adding more positivity and fabulousness into the world!

Sophie and I with one of Sophie's role models - Gala Darling!

Sophie and I with one of Sophie’s role models – Gala Darling!

She is a breath of fresh air, a down to earth person and a wonderful friend to have. I am so glad I met Sophie because she really has made such a huge impact on my life.

A while ago (when I needed some new sayings and quotes for my bedroom walls) I copied down a number of things she had written on her blog. I thought I would share some of her advice and wisdom with you all so that you can understand just how amazing this girl is!

  • The answers to our questions are always out there, sometimes you just need to take a different route to find them!
  • I refuse to let myself take the easier path. I refuse to struggle through life feeling unhappy and miserable. I accept that there will be times when I am lonely and times when I am inconsolable and sad. Those moments are mine; I own them and deserve them. But I will not let these moments consume me. I will get back on that horse as many times as I have to because this is my life and I deserve to be living it.
  • Forget everyone else. None of it matters. What matters is you.
  • How wonderful it is to be so silly every once in a while. How incredible it is to let go and just have some fun.
  • The world is a rough place and life is often hard but that is an even better reason to be more gentle.
  • Don’t let your dreams be dreams.
  • Stand up and take responsibility of your own life. It may hurt to begin with. It may even be shocking to look at yourself so clearly that you see every flaw and every mistake you have ever made. But ignorance is not bliss. You make your bed and you lay in it. You can either chose to ignore the messy bed you have made or get the fuck out of bed and fix it. Your choice.
  • Challenges are great. They help us to improve and improvement is important for self-happiness.
  • Perhaps sweaty, dirty nightclubs really aren’t the best place to meet boys? They should teach that in schools!
  • Reward yourselves for giving life all that you have got.
  • So whatever it is that you are afraid of? Acknowledge it. Say hello. Play around with it. Fear might make us vulnerable but it also makes us human. Feel whatever you feel. Let emotion pass through you; let life take its course. Whatever happens, we are all going to be okay!
  • Don’t stop looking until you find happiness. Happiness that doesn’t come in the form of another person. But happiness that comes from self-satisfaction.
  • Let your colour shine!
  • Happy people glow.
  • Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.
  • Don’t let small people try and bring you down. The best thing is to let it be, let them say whatever they have to say and one day in the future when you are all you could ever have imagined, that is your payback. That is the best revenge.
  • The ability to recognise the good in your life is so important and should become a daily routine.

Isn’t she just so amazing!?

Sophie, you inspire me every single day and I know you will achieve amazing things in the future. I hope I can inspire you to get writing again because you have a wonderful outlook on life and I feel it needs to be out there in the world to inspire others!

So much love for you, my fellow blogger, writer and life enthusiast!!

Kirstin xx

Draw How It Feels To Be Happy

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A lovely person that I met a while ago gave me the above book called “1001 Ways to Happiness”. One of my favourite things in it was this:

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A few months ago I spent one Saturday and one Sunday morning sitting at my desk thinking about what happiness felt like to me. It was hard to draw surprisingly, putting a feeling into colours, lines and images. However I in the end it was a really wonderful process and I felt it was accurate for me. It is now stuck on one of my bedroom walls and I look at it almost every day.

My drawing of how it feels to be happy

My drawing of how it feels to be happy

We feel happiness so many times through life, and recognising how it feels and what it looks like it not something we often do. But through recognition we can find many benefits. If you are struggling to find happiness now, or at any other stage in life, you can bring yourself back to your drawing and hopefully it will provide you with some peace and belief that you will feel happy again soon.

Also if you feel like your life is often lacking happiness, by undertaking this drawing, you may in fact notice that you know what happiness feels like and that you often do feel happy, without even realising it.

I found the exercise very meditative and calming as it it brings you back to focus on yourself. We spend so much time rushing from here to there, not really present in the moment or stopping to smile. Hopefully you will do this exercise and you find some serenity through the process.

If you struggle to put your feelings on paper try thinking about whether any of the following things make you happy:

  • People
  • Places
  • Colours
  • Memories
  • Movements
  • Images

And that’s just to name a few! Hopefully your creative and imaginative self is inspired to get drawing. And if you’re still struggling, just draw! Put pen to paper, go with the flow and draw what feels right.

Next time you have some spare time, grab some paper and markers and draw how it feels to be happy!

Lots of love,

Kirstin xx